cousins with the same name??

[tidybooks]

we have 2 sons and ever since the first one we have always have our favourite girls name "in reserve" for a dd if one came along. Though we haven't actually discussed this with anyone.

Now we are expecting again with a month to go. Last week dbro wife gave birth to a little girl.. and gave her our name!!

Not sure what to do, think up a name from scratch.. or go with a variation of the same name, like Helen/Helena, or Diane/Diana. We love the variation so it would still be our first choice name iyswim.

Please give me your views, tia :)

[PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot]

I would think it would be out of order to have the same or remarkably similar names. It would be weird.


There must be others you like?

[cakebar]

You just can't give the grandparents two grandchildren with the same name, it is ridiculous. They got there first, so for you.

Do you know you are having a girl?

[BackforGood]

It's really not a good idea.
Start again and find another lovely name to give her.

[LouMacca]

This happened to us. Decided on our boys name and then SIL used it (yes she knew we wanted it). Anyway there was no way we could use the same name so picked the next on our list - she did us a favour really (although that's not what I said at the time!!) our DS would never have suited the other name.

Pick a new name

[tidybooks]

It's not exactly the same name, but I know vvv similar.

No, we don't know for sure a girl.

There isn't really anything we like as much, frantically reading name books now. It's just so difficult as have first and middle names sorted and we thought they sounded so pretty together. Also surname a bit awkward so rules out a lot of names.

[squoosh]

Find a new name. They got there first sadly.

There are lots of names, don't tell yourselves there's no other name you could possibly love as much.

[bigbluebump]

The whole point of naming someone/something is to IDENTIFY them so naming two grandchildren the same/similar name is bonkers imo, sorry.

There are thousands of names out there - is there no other you love?

[PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot]

Has to be a new name IMO.

What's the name can you tell and we can try and think of some alternatives?

[PeazlyPops]

I have cousins with the same name, there is a year between them. It's not an issue for anyone, and it's easier for my gran as she gets everyones name wrong anyway!

[PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot]

Personally though I would be fuming if my sister did it to me.

If you are going to do it you need to explain first and ask them if they mind.

[squoosh]

It would be weird for the parents of the first baby. If I was them my face would be many shades of 'WTF???'

[tidybooks]

It's Amelia/Amelie, so hardly unique.

I'm just feeling sad about having to start from scratch with a new name.. had been referring to future dd as this name for getting on for a decade!

[Squigglywiggly]

This has just happened to us. My bro and sil have recently had a DS and used the name we would have done for our dc due in 4 weeks.

Neither knew each others name - so we always knew risk! A bit frustrating but we went back to thrash it out and now have a completely different name! As grandparents will probably only ever have 4 grandchildren it would be nice that they are all different!

[tidybooks]

I just think if I go for something else everytime I hear my first choice I will feel a bit :(

[tidybooks]

People always go on about how no one owns a name, do you think I could just say that to them if they are cross? Just trying to justify going ahead with original name, but feeling that I can't really do it..

dh would probably go along with what I want though.

[tidybooks]

My dm know about what name I wanted so would understand.

[squoosh]

Your daughter deserves her own special name.
Her cousin deserves her own special name.

You know what you need to do . . . .


Trawl these treads or get 1001 Baby Names down off the shelf.

[iknowwho]

I have the same name as my cousin, my aunty AND my sister in law confusing eh?

I guess a big question is how often do you see them.
If they lived miles away and hardly see them - like my cousin did- it's not an issue.

[GreenShadow]

When it's friends naming their DC the same I always think it's fine but cousins is different.

Probably best not to.

[BonzoDooDah]

It's hard having two people with the same name in a close family.

DH's sister named her DS after my DH. So he and his nephew have the same, fairly uncommon, name. The trouble is that DH's parents live near his DS and are always looking after the DN. So when we see them here they and they are telling stories such as "X liked this and X did that" and we have to ask them which X it was - their SON sitting in front of them or their grandson a few hundred miles away.

[OvO]

My sister talked about using my DS1's name for her DS2 (and my mum and other sister said it was fine to use it!) and I was totally about it. If she'd done it I would have held a grudge forever. Years from now, on her deathbed I'd have leant over and told her how much I loved her sob sob but p.s. I still haven't forgiven you for stealing my DS's name.

Don't do it, OP.

[Sirzy]

If they have any sort of regular contact with each other it will soon get very confusing and will be very confusing for the rest of the family.

[squoosh]

OvO. Love the lifelong grudge never to be quenched!

[PedallingSquares]

I have two cousins with the same name and the younger one with that name has an elder sister who has the same name as her middle name.

My Aunt felt she couldn't use it for DD1 as it was already in use in the family so she used it as a middle. Then when she had DD2 she decided to just go for it.

It has never been a problem but they don't see one another very much

[OvO]

I'm such a lovely, loving sister.