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Zaaaazoooo Fri 09-Sep-11 13:23:05

My baby is going to be one soon and I'm still not happy with her name! sad I know I sound crazy but just can't get over it. I worry her name will give other kids a reason to make fun of her or bully her and she'll hate it. The name was chosen as a compromise to please her older brother and dad but thinking back they would've got used to any name if I'd insisted. The whole family esp big bro and sis and her dad are used to it, is it really possible to change? any one been through this? please help with advice and please be kind as I feel so bad and guilty about it already sad Thank you

rushofbloodtothefeet Fri 09-Sep-11 13:24:29

If you want us to give a reasonable judgement answer you're going to have to tell us the name...

Elderberries Fri 09-Sep-11 13:24:44

Can I ask the name?

Zaaaazoooo Fri 09-Sep-11 13:28:45

Mina

Elderberries Fri 09-Sep-11 13:32:25

I like Mina and don't think she will be teased. Why do you think it will cause problems?

What would you change it to if you could?

rushofbloodtothefeet Fri 09-Sep-11 13:33:41

I think it's pretty, but I guess you are worried about the Meena/Miner pronunciation issues?

Zaaaazoooo Fri 09-Sep-11 13:42:08

I am worried she will be called "mean" nn sad Can't stop thinking about it, didn't cross my mind till too late. She was going to be Hana or Mina but her brother said he really didn't like Hana so I wanted to please him. We also had Yasmin and Amelie on the list till last minute. Wish I went with any of the others as they are more common and would've made her life easier I think.

ImpyCelyn Fri 09-Sep-11 13:42:30

I know a 15 month old called Mina, I think it's a lovely name, very sweet ironically when I last saw her she only had two teeth, in fang position

Why are you worried she'll be teased?

Kayano Fri 09-Sep-11 13:44:30

Nina is better than Hana IMO
And Yasmin... Is that not a form of contraceptive pill?

ImpyCelyn Fri 09-Sep-11 13:46:25

Mina is better than Hana, and better than Yasmin and Amelie too, IMO.

They'll only call her "mean Mina" if she actually is. They might call her Meen for short hmm but not Mean.

scarlettlips Fri 09-Sep-11 13:47:09

I like it..but that's no help to you I know.

Can you not give her a nn? Mia or Mimi??

mopsyflopsy Fri 09-Sep-11 14:09:31

I like Mina too. I know a lovely German one.

Every single name can be teased - silly Tilly, smellie Mellie, Willy, et. etc. but in my opinion children are pretty accepting of different names.

Pancakeflipper Fri 09-Sep-11 14:12:47

Any name can become a point of teasing. Children are very creative in their name rhyming and mean words. Mina doesn't strike me to be mightly high up on the teasing radar unless your surname is something Peenar.

Elderberries Fri 09-Sep-11 15:54:35

If children are going to tease they will find something....I think that you are over obsessing about this to be honest.

If you just don't like the name though, that is another matter.

fedupofnamechanging Fri 09-Sep-11 17:01:56

I like the name, but if you do not, then you need to change it before she is one.

Fwiw, I don't think anyone will tease her - it is a very pretty name.

Quenelle Fri 09-Sep-11 17:09:47

Mina is a nice name. I can't see why anyone would tease her.

Zaaaazoooo Fri 09-Sep-11 17:31:10

Thank you all for your kind comments, to be honest there is also an element of not liking the name as I thought I did when I put down it as an option. However, whenever I hear her brother and sister call her so lovingly all the time I worry that changing it will be hard for them. I am really obsessing about this. If it was just upto me to get used to a new name I would change it but I think of the others, don't think her dad will be too pleased to change it either sad

Zaaaazoooo Fri 09-Sep-11 17:49:44

Surname not something like Peenar smile It's long and ends with the sound ee

Kyrie Fri 09-Sep-11 17:59:07

I feel like this about DS1 name and he is 5!

However I think by 1 they are very much their name and it would be quite hard to totally change it.

Could you call her Emmy as in M for Mina or find a long name with the mina sound in it so family could still call her Mina but she would have a different official name for work and school?

Zaaaazoooo Fri 09-Sep-11 18:05:16

I thought about that but didn't find a great choice, did think of Yasmina but not sure if its a better name? I also thought of putting Mina as a second name like Hana Mina or Amelie Mina? I feel like such a loser and a weak person for not sorting this out months ago! I try to please the rest of the family but end up unhappy sad

ImpyCelyn Fri 09-Sep-11 18:12:01

For what it's worth, I actually think she'll be really pleased with her name when she's older.There are tons of Amelies and quite a few Yasmins, at least she has something original.

A Hannah I was at school with got called "Fanny Hannah" hmm Whatever you call her other children will be able to call her something cruel, that's just the nature of school sadly.

I think you just need to forget your concerns and enjoy your daughter, she has a lovely name, really.

Kyrie Fri 09-Sep-11 18:15:06

After you've had a baby though it's really hard to feel strong and like you want to stand up for yourself. Don't feel like a loser sad

I regret giving my DS a foreign name but didn't really get it was a problem until he went to nursery and people thought it was a girls name. So way too late.

Sounds like you are sure you don't like it - Give a new first name, have Mina as middle. Dont push anyone in the family to change but as more and more new people call her the new name then it'll gradually transfer.

mayanna123 Fri 09-Sep-11 18:33:24

I think Mina is lovely. Simple, Elegant, feminine and works well in most languages. Imo it is much nicer than Amelie, which is a little overused these days.

Kayano Fri 09-Sep-11 18:42:52

I did not have a nickname at all at school. To the point where they called me 'Teflon - because nicknames just don't stick'

theowlwhowasafraidofthedark Fri 09-Sep-11 19:10:29

Mina is a lovely pretty name. I really don't think she'll get teased for it. Whilst it's not 'top 10' common I would not say it's unusual either.

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