Harriet lovely. I like girls' names that can be shortened to androgynous nicknames -appeals to my feminist leanings. I think Octavia for a middle name has a certain ring to it and not pretentious at all as it is not as if everyone goes around broadcasting their middle name.
Like Harriet, think it goes reall well with Phoebe.
Also think Harriet Octavia, Harriet Mary and Harriet Olivia all ound beautiful together.
I don't think it matters if Octavia is a bit pretentious (btw, as an aside, if you actually are a 'posh', traditional type person CAN you be pretentious or is that word only for people who are pretending to be 'posher' than they are?) because it' a middle name and middle names are there to go to town on imo.
Thanks everyone for the input. It sounds like Octavia may be a little on the pretentious side, I just love the way it sounds and spells. She (if she is a she) would be the second child, born in the tenth month, so maybe Harriet Secunda or Harriet Decima!
If she were born in august she could of course be Harriet Augusta ...
But seriously, here is another to add to the mix - does Harriet Antonia suffer from the same issues as Harriet Octavia?
In a way I hope its a boy as he will be straightforward - Thomas Abraham - sorted, signed and sealed, since DD1 was in the womb!