Trouble agreeing on baby names

[Ivortheengine8]

I'm fed up!. DH said I could 'choose a name' but pretty much every one I have run past him he doesn't like!! What's a girl to do?!
He is not coming up with any himself either and said we have up to 6 months after the birth to chose one!!?
He said we can't chose one because we don't know the sex of the baby so we won't chose now until it arrives.
He has said he likes Anna for a girl but won't agree on a boys name. :(

DH was born in the UK and has lived here most of his life but his family are Nigerian so we have a Nigerian surname. He doesnt want to go back to Nigeria and doesnt keep in contact with friends or family over there. His parents are deceased to he doesnt actually have that much to go back for I suppose. (I would love to go back for a little while and have been several times before but he is not keen)

So the child will be growing up in the UK and somehow I think we should have some sort of English first name. Our DD has a first English name and he liked the one he gave her. He just seems stuck on boys names!


Ok rant over, what do you think?
I think I will just leave it up to him but I know we won't get anywhere until after the baby is born.
I have gone through several lists with him so far and he doesnt like any of them.

Ok really rant over..........

[Tortoiseonthehalfshell]

He said we can't chose one because we don't know the sex of the baby so we won't chose now until it arrives

Well that's just stupid. Tell him he either comes up with some names or agrees that you can choose without his input.

Does he actually want a Nigerian name if it's a boy? He's agreed on an Anglo name for a girl, and for your first daughter, is that a sticking point?

[Bunbaker]

"said we have up to 6 months after the birth to chose one!!?"

Sorry, it is six weeks not months.

[Ivortheengine8]

I'm not sure Tortoise, he doesn't really say much or seem interested when I ask. (thats not just about names it's just his way)

I thought it was shorter than 6 weeks. I know we registered our DD within about a week.

[Ivortheengine8]

-shorter than 6 months-

[MsChanandlerBong]

If I were you, I would stop running your suggestions past him at this stage as it doesn't seem like he is going to enter into any serious decisions until after the birth. And you must be getting really frustrated by now (I would be tearing my hair out!!)

But I would get your preferred shortlist of names ready. Then, once your baby is born, you can present him with your list and then you can decide together from there.

Ideally, if you have a list of names for both boys and girls that you love, then whatever one he picks you will be happy.

And at that point you can helpfully point out that he has up to 6 weeks (not months) so he better make his choice pdq!!

HTH