I've recently lost both my grandmothers. I was never given a middle name, apparently my parents hated their own and wanted me to have the option to choose something if I wanted later on. (They latterly gave my brother a middle name though so not quite sure what happened to that particular chain of logic).
The combination of names I like includes both their first and middle names. This, however, gives me 4 middle names. The main problem I have is that I love the first name of one grandmother but the middle name of another. I could use just these, but the middle name is similar to my first name. It sounds fine with the other names but a bit weird otherwise. The first name of this Grandma isn't that pretty but I love it with her middle name.
Since I'm choosing four middle names and not inflicting them on a poor unsuspecting child, does that make it better? Or is it just poncy and pretentious to have more than a couple of forenames (which is not my intention at all, I just want to honour my grandmothers by taking their beautiful names).
I'm probably overthinking this and just want some thoughts really. DP thinks I should just go with the middle names, but they don't really feel like their names
Yes, adding middle names. I currently have none, could potentially have four. I only have a provisional driving license, my passport has expired so I need to reapply anyway, and I'm not yet married to DP, so it does seem like the best time to do it.
My main worry is how many names are too many?!
The names are (in no particular order, in case any family members recognise me) Florence, May, Violet and Jean.
I think the royal family have about a million names, don't they?
Not necessarily - the current crop seem to have 4 forenames (eg Charles Philip Arthur George) but the Queen herself only has 3 (Elizabeth Alexandra Mary). Perhaps you're thinking of Edward VIII/the Duke of Windsor who did have a lot of names (Edward Albert Christian George Andrew Patrick David) these included the 4 patron saints of the British Isles.
"i honestly don't understand why you are bothering" Mainly because I can't bear the thought of never seeing the names of my Grandmothers even being used again and I feel they are lovely names.
"I think the royal family have about a million names, don't they" Maybe but I don't really uphold them as a good example of sense and rationality.
I've still not come to a decision really. I keep rolling the full name around in my head and I do like it. I don't really like any of the compromises though, so think it's going to have to be all or nothing. I've actually always quite liked not having a middle name but now suddenly feel like I really want their names.
Go for it's what you want to do. The only people who will see your name in full will be strangers from organisations that need to be informed of the name change if you want to make it formal. I wouldn't worry about filling out forms as an obstacle to going through with it, as an adult, you will rarely have to every write your name in full after the initial change.
Are you going to do it by deed poll or by just informing banks, passport, DVLA, electoral roll etc? Your birth and other records (marriage, qualifications) can't be altered though, can they? So this is just for the quiet comfort/strength of knowing you have other family names? In other words, you don't want to declare the change to the public at large or use them all on a daily basis? It's nice that you are commemorating them in that way.