Hello, I have made the decision (about 98% sure) to terminate a pregnancy, I am absolutely churned up about this and very distressed but feel it is probably the right thing to do.
Can anyone share any experiences about a termination at this stage, physical and mental?
thank you.
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termination at 9 weeks, advice/experiences
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pregnancywithouthim · 31/10/2013 19:28
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LondonNightmareInGhostlyBoots ·
31/10/2013 20:19
I had one at 10+6 but I thought I was at 8. I think at 9 you have to have a surgical, I wanted surgical anyway as then it was over. It didn't hurt at all.
you have to either have a cab or a lift home they dont let you leave for public transport which I didn't know. if a male partner comes with you they can't stay in the waiting room which makes perfect sense in hindsight, you don't know the experience of the other women in the waiting room. Don't know if a female would be allowed to stay.
I was under general, you can also have it under a kind of waking sedation but I did not want to have that. I was very sleepy for 2 days after, I'd take it off work if I were you.
I was a wreck afterwards for a while, not helped by the ea relationship I was in 'you stupid bitch for getting yourself pregnant why weren't you on the pill' into 'you bitch you killed my baby'. He was great
it took me about a month to feel ok and about 5 or 6 to feel normal. no emotion attached to it or the topic now, never really had any regrets at the time either, the emotions were tied to the situation and the fact that it would have been my child not the actual baby-in-potential iyswim. i never really considered keeping it tbh.
I bled for about 2 weeks maybe, can't remember exactly as it was about 6 years ago. cramped for maybe 2 days but not as bad as my period pains.
its a very hard decision to make but for me, it was ten million percent the right one. it helps to have someone irl to talk to, as you will probably want to cry and I think chemicaly it is a shock to the system, your body won't be prepared to lose a pregnancy so quickly. my hormones were a bit messy for a while. it took actually 2 years for my boobs to shrink back down (they got massive, went from a b to an ee in what would have been week 5 or 6), and they are a bit 'empty' now, base size wise a dd but with a c worth of filling. my body physically changed shape too, I was a very late developer and while I was 5 months into 18 when I got pg, I had only had my periods for 2 years and I hadn't finished developing tbh, I suddenly got hips in the space of about a week just before the termination, I think the hormones sped the last bits of puberty up.
That was very long, apologies, I just wanted to tell you anything that could be useful! Just remember, you are making this decision, and making it for you and no one has any right to tell you what to do with your body one way or another. no one else is you or in your shoes even if they have been in a similar situation it is not your situation.
if you want to pm me feel free.
pregnancywithouthim ·
31/10/2013 20:36
Thank you, I'm a bit on my own really but that's one of the major reasons in not really wanting to continue with the pregnancy 
I do feel very upset but also relieved, I do think it's the right decision but also think I'll feel very, very sad afterwards as I do want children and I feel awful but not now, not like this
Thank you so much for sharing x
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