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being selfish for all the wrong reasons? Or should terminate?

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Countmyblessings Tue 30-Oct-12 13:16:19

Hi not sure where to start - my bf has 2 DC and has had 3 losses quite close together, just getting over mc at 6 weeks and then fell pregnant again quite quickly!
She was Worried, scared but excited all at once!
After loads of tests and waiting she reached 12 weeks where the scan showed the baby's legs in an awkward position and now concerns about the legs not moving and also it progressing into a worse situation!
No tests can tell me if will go full term, if baby will be disabled just legs or if its serious nerve damage and so baby life will go down hill and end up not having any function???? So confused and don't have anyone in RL to relate to this issue!
Is she being selfish in regards to other dc and how they will cope? Should She be grateful for Dc,and terminate? Times passing so quickly and shes trying not to deal with it, but its happening???
DH is totally supportive and will respect whatever She decide!
I'm the only person that knows and I'm struggling with info as never dealt with a situation as serious and heart breaking as this!

MrsCantSayAnything Wed 31-Oct-12 11:34:13

Only she can truly know what the choice she needs to make is. It's impossible for anyone here to comment really as no one woman would have the same reaction to such news.

You only need to tell her that her choice is the right one whichever she makes.

tearsarewet Wed 31-Oct-12 18:37:25

How is her state of mind in all this?
I guess you posting here is just for opinions or information if anyone has had to deal with a similar situation?
It's a real difficult one and has it been confirmed of how bad this can be?
I have read on here about different situations where mums to be have been told the baby will not survive!
Also I guess on how she will cope with this very dependant child and the other children also!
Whatever she decide with her husbands support, thoughts and prayers to her " try stay strong for her she clearly depends on you a lot"

Countmyblessings Fri 02-Nov-12 16:05:23

She is so strong and I admire her so much!
As I'm pregnant is very hard to imagine how's she's feeling but I'm trying to support her as much as I can! Very hard and I can't imagine what I would do if I was in her position!
Not here to judge just support!

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