After a nuchal translucency test last week, I have been given a very high risk of having a Downs baby - a 1:2 risk, in fact.
Saw the screening midwife on Monday afternoon, who went through our NT results and explained why we have the 1:2 risk. Nuchal fold measured 5.2mm, and because of my age (35) and high hormone + significantly low protein level (think I've got that the right way round), that's given us the 1:2 risk. We have 1:17 risk of Edwards/Patau.
To my disappointment, I'm too far gone for a CVS, so have to wait another two weeks before an amnio can be done.
All this waiting and not knowing is killing me. One minute, I can be up and feeling positive; the next, I feel so low and unsure of what to do. I know DS children can have relatively normal lives these days, so I can't help but feel a termination isn't an option. But when I think about raising a DS child, as well as having our two other children, I'm filled with fear and - for selfish reasons, I will admit - don't think I'll be able to do it.
My husband works away from home quite a lot (it's now 5am, and he's just left in a taxi for the airport), and even though he says he's going to try to change that so he's home more, I don't think I can cope. It's also hard to talk about the negatives of having a DS child with him, as I think he's already decided what his course of action is.
I know I'm worrying prematurely as we've not had the amnio yet, and there's still a slim chance everything could be normal, but I can't stop myself from fretting. I'm dreading waiting for the phone call with the amnio results. Already I'm regretting trying so soon for another baby, and even getting to the point where I'm thinking miscarrying might be a blessing.
At this precise moment in time, it feels like I have an impossible decision to make. I am so scared, and I feels like I can't really talk to anyone.
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1:2 risk of DS, so scared
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mummymonkey08 · 25/07/2012 05:54
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