So as the subject says.
I was unwell with postnatal anxiety. Everything was a hazard to the baby. I kept lashing out at my husband because he kept doing things wrong/didn't love the baby/wasn't keeping the baby safe (in my opinion). The way he held him, carried him, spoke to him etc...all, I felt, was wrong. It must have been awful for him. Pretty much everything he did and he tried to help, I threw back in his face because I didn't think he was keeping our baby safe enough.
I am 6months pp and so much better. I have had therapy and do not live in fear that something will happen to our baby anymore. I always wanted a small age gap between our children and I have approached the subject of more children with my husband. He said he doesn't want anymore with me because he fears I will be like I was with the 1st. I don't think I will be as I have learnt how to manage the anxieties and know they are not 'real'. How do I persuade my husband this and that I (think and hope!!) I will not be so unwell with a 2nd? I did specifically ask him whether he didn't want another child because he didn't want anymore children or whether it was because he didn't want to experience what he experienced when I was unwell and it was the latter.
Have any others got any experiences of how their husbands felt when they were unwell after having a baby and would care to share?
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My husband doesn't want another baby because he can't go through what he went through when I was unwell after the first
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Sofie19 · 11/01/2021 21:48
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