Hi, I am married with 2 children (4 years and 13 months) and just found out I am pregnant. I figure I am right at 5 weeks along. This is an unplanned or lack of planning pregnancy and because of this I am feeling tremendous guilt. My first 2 pregnancies we used ovulation test kits, basal thermometers and apps and still took over a year. After my last pregnancy I was not using contraceptive and kept meaning to schedule an appointment to go to the doctor's office and get an IUD, but never did. I already have my hands full raising 2 kids and working full time. I also struggle with depression, especially during pregnancy and postpartum. I have always been against terminating a pregnancy, but now that i find myself in this position I am honestly thinking about contacting my OB/GYN to see about the abortion pill.
I feel like I am holding a double edge sword. If I have the baby I am afraid of ruining my family dynamic I have now with my 2 children, afraid I won't have as strong of a bond nor will I be able to care for them as well. I am also afraid of the depression and how I will handle caring for another child. On the flip side I am worried about guilt and depression if I go through with the termination. The amount of guilt I am feeling right now because of how unresponsible I was is killing me.
I am hoping to get some words of advice from others out there, that have gone through similar things and what they decided on doing.
Thanks in advance.
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KIKOx4 · 09/12/2020 16:17
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