Nobody is excited

[natlove]

I'm currently sat in the waiting room ready for my 4th scan. After previous complications with other pregnancies and reoccurring miscarriages we have reached the 14 weeks mark. I have already had 3 scans just to keep an eye on things. I didn't tell family or friends until I was 12 weeks, partner obviously knew from our first pregnancy test. After telling family and friends nobody seems happy or excited. I have come to every scan on my own and I'm sat here now looking at all the happy couples cooing over their photos and bumps and I just want to cry. My partner hasn't really taken an interest either he briefly looked at the last scan pic he hasn't asked anything about any appointments or asked how I'm feeling. I told my family through a group chat and my sister didn't respond my mum said "that's lovely" and my aunties and cousins just either put a smiley face, thumbs up or heart emoji. Since then nobody has mentioned anything. I don't know if I being dramatic but I feel so lonely and it's took away my excitement too

[rainbow1982]

That's really horrible of everyone and you have every right to be upset. I can kind of relate because we've had 3 losses and I'm now 16 weeks, at first my mum and dad we're acting really strange but I said straight away I wasn't happy about their reaction and they quickly explained they were terrified of me going through the heartbreak of another loss so I understood but said I wanted to treasure every moment and now they're super excited and have bought our cot!

I think you need to speak to all involved and tell them how you feel.

As for your partner, what the hell? Has he been to any scans? I really feel for you hun but again speak to him and say his behaviour is weird!

[Robs20]

Maybe they are all nervous and don’t want to be too excited? I told my parents last week I am pregnant and they haven’t asked a thing. My dad said he was excited/ mum came in and patted my head (yes really). I’m pretty sure this is because they are nervous that something might go wrong - dd1 died when she was 1 so they have good reason to be nervous.
Perhaps you can sit down with your partner and explain how you feel/ what you need from him (coming to the scans etc)?
Good luck for your scan today!

[rainbow1982]

Robs20 that's so terrible I'm so sorry for your loss, huge congratulations though, how many weeks are you?

Natlove let us know how your scan goes and can we see the picture?

[Taneve]

@natlove,
Sorry you feel this way .
Maybe with your history the Family and yr Partner dont want to get too emotionally involved just in case of Miscarriage. But I just encourage you to take 1 day at a time and just not worry about anyone's feelings. In time they will come round even your Partner and then as the pregnancy progresses they excitement will kick in.
Hope all goes well and chin up!