I'm 32 and 12 weeks pregnant in a very much planned and wanted pregnancy. Just 6 months ago I was also pregnant but a blood test and CVS showed a severe chromosomal issue and we chose to have a termination at 14 weeks. It was the worst thing to ever happen to me and I cried everyday for 2 months. Fast forward, we tried again after 3 months and I'm pregnant again.
This time even though I was desperate to get pregnant, when I tested every day since 8dpo for a BFP, when I got it our BFP on 12dpo, I met up with my husband and just cried. I told him we couldn't manage it. I was terrified of another issue coming up where I'd be forced to choose to terminate again. I felt he couldn't support me even though he totally has been the kindest most sacrificing person ever. I felt alone and like I'd made a mistake.
I have a high pressure job in a man's world with no female mentors at the C-suite level. I travel once a month internationally but since my last (secret!) pregnancy and loss i kept finding excuses not to fly. If my husband is too busy at work to travel on holidays, I plan my own with friends and pay for everything on my own. I pay for all the nice lifestyle things my husband and i share.
At 9 weeks I did all the screening tests, genetic testing on me as well. And everything came back normal! Since then I've just slowly drifted into a zombie like state of sleeping, eating and brushing my teeth at like 2pm. I don't wear makeup anymore. I am senior enough to work from home. I don't even want to get out of my pyjamas.
I can't go through with a termination. But all I think about at 1am in the morning is divorce, termination, leave my job, abandon my career, just end it all.
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12 weeks pregnant and hating my life
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julitan · 22/01/2019 14:21
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