Husband depressed about our pregnancy

[Cole1936]

I wonder if anyone can help; I am 6 months pregnant and so upset as my husband is what I think is depressed. He said that he just doesn’t know how he feels about me being pregnant and says he is sorry but I just don’t really know what to do. Our first child was through IVF and we waited 8 years for him and he is our world. Our 2nd child we had a miscarriage at 3 months and when we found out we were pregnant this time round (naturally) his reaction was far from happy. He hasn’t cuddled me since we found out and although I am very sympathetic and understanding with people with depression as it runs in my family; I am struggling to help and understand him and just feel angry towards him and feel like I need to protect my unborn baby. I really want him to move out for a while, I love him with all my heart but I really can’t cope with his moods and lack of love for our baby. I feel like I am letting him down and not being there for him but I also feel it’s not fair on my son and unborn baby that I am this upset. I am a strong believer of bringing children up in a happy loving home as my my home growing up was far from happy and I remember how unhappy that was.
I have explained to him that lots of people get these thoughts of not loving two the same and taking away from the first etc and told him to speak to friends etc which he has but his mood is not shifting.
I want to share my pregnancy with him and let him feel our baby kick and move but he is not interested. I really do feel awful that I am not supporting him but I just don’t know what to do.
Any advice would be gratefully received.
Many thanks

[Motherof2xx]

In the same boat as you x