First pregnancy - completely lost interest

[Belle81]

This is my first pregnancy and I am nearly 7 weeks when I found out at about 2 weeks, I was over the moon. I'm married, have a lovely home with room for a growing family, the pregnancy was planned, I have a supportive husband and family and several of my friends are pregnant or just given birth so I will have a support network around me, it was perfect timing and something I really wanted but for the last couple of weeks, since the nausea kicked in, I literally don't even want to think about the pregnancy, let alone talk about it or make plans for it. I couldn't wait to tell everyone but now I'm dreading telling people because they're going to want to talk about it! Over the weekend, I felt awful, was crying hysterically and had an overwhelmingly feeling of panic that I don't want to do this and it's all out of my control. I've never suffered with depression, I've gone through occasional down periods and suffer with a bit of PMT but nothing like this. I am hoping it is just because I feel sick all the time and so associate the pregnancy with making me feel sick, which will hopefully pass with the nausea, because I can't face feeling like this for another 7 months. I am also concerned now that I may suffer with postnatal depression which terrifies me. I feel so ungrateful and like I'm already a terrible mother! I feel bad for my husband too, he has been amazing and is so excited, he's reading all the books and making plans and I just don't want to talk about it. Has anyone else had this? It's not something anyone seems to talk about. Thank you x

[Starlive22]

I'm sure I will be the first of many to say this, but it sounds like a mixture of hormones, nausea, tiredness and anxiety. You will be a great mum and a freak out now and then won't make you a bad mother, I promise. When you see your midwife let her know your feelings and concerns, I'm sure she will assure you it's perfectly normal and if you need any extra support she can help with that.

Congrats on your pregnancy and try not to overwhelm yourself with how you 'should' be feeling and give yourself a bit of a break. It's a big thing happening and it's ok not to be ok all of the time xx

[Namechangeuser]

It's really common to feel like this, I was overwhelmed with anxiety, especially in the first trimester. Give it time.

The thing is with pregnancy, and actually with birth aswell, is that the media, and lots around you will give this picture perfect version of each, so when you don't feel glowing, excited etc you feel like it's wrong. Truth is, lots and lots of women feel like you do. It's such an overwhelming time.

Pregnancy is far from the glamour you see in films and tv, quite frankly, at times pregnancy absolutely sucks!

The same can be said when baby is born, everyone talks of the rush of love and all that, but for me, and many other women, I remember looking at my baby moments after she was born and just thinking "oh, I thought I'd recognise you but I don't".

I love her more than anything in the world, but the love definitely grew over time, and that's totally normal too.

Take it one day at a time, and if your not ready to talk or think about it yet then just don't. I think you will find when you see your baby in your first scan that you might feel a bit more excited (but if not...still totally normal!)

Best of luck!

[lilly28]

hey pretty, how are you? you're absolutely worrying so much because of this. what i feel like is that you're just fearing a lot. when a lady is expecting, she has all these feelings. i know it's terrible. sometimes you even get so frustrated that you want to end this all at once. you often get mood swings too. your health condition might be because of your pregnancy. but this does not mean that you can't be okay until your delivery. if you make an effort to be happy, you'll be over this stress soon. try to make yourself busy in activities that you like. do not over think on things that make you sad. secondly, i would advise to visit your doctor regularly. this is very important for your and your baby's health. much love to you. hoping to hear the good news soon.

[Belle81]

Just thought I should update this thread for anyone going through something similar. After the 12 week mark and the nausea passed, I felt like a different woman! I am now over 6 months and am loving every minute of my pregnancy!! Reading back on this post is like reading someone else's comments. Obviously I can only speak for myself but if anyone else is experiencing this, I am sure it will pass and talking to people does help so that you know it's normal and not just you. Love and hugs to anyone suffering in the early stages x

[kate10x]

Hey! It's nice to read this thread as I'm 10 weeks and really suffering! And can relate to everything in your first post! Hope all goes ok! Xx

[MillieC0102]

I too can relate, I’m 7 weeks and struggling with anxiety, nausea and insomnia, I had a major melt down on Monday but just trying to take it a day at a time. Its so nice to read a post from a woman who’s come out the other side! I hope you’re okay, at least we know we’re not alone x x

[BeachYogi]

I know this is an old thread but it helped me to read how the feelings passed at 12 weeks. I'm feeling similar to how you described in your initial post and I'm just over 8 weeks.

[MillieC0102]

Beach yogi I’m 14 weeks and can confirm I am in a completely different place now, I think when I hit the 10 week mark everything started to settle down and I started to think more clearly and now I’m really excited and can’t wait to meet my sweet babe. Don’t worry, what you’re feeling is normal although it seems not many people like to admit it or talk about it. Hang in there, things do get easier x x

[kate10x]

Hey girls, I got to 12 weeks and felt a completely different person. Never underestimate the power of hormones. I didn't believe they were hormones. I thought how the hell can i feel this rough and it be normal? It got to week 12 and I slowly felt every day becoming lovely again. Please please hang in there.. trust the process! You're doing great xxxx

[kate10x]

Look at my previous post at 10 weeks!! I was suffering big time! X