Ftm, 5 day old baby why do I feel so down?

[Courtney10891]

Hi ladies, I'm a ftm. I gave birth five days ago to a beautiful baby boy. We can home the day after i had him. I'm struggling, really struggling. I just worry about him so much. Every noise he makes I'm scared. Every time he sleeps I just stare at him. I don't know what to do. I'm feeling really down and depressed. I went to the toilet before just to cry. My partner is amazing with him but I even miss my partner. Even though we live together, he sleeps 10-3 while I have baby then he wakes up and we swap over. Feel like we have had a hug or kiss since baby was born. Just don't know what to do. Does it get better and easier and less worrying? X

[RJnomore1]

Oh god the baby blues hit five days in. Can't remember if it's a hormone dip or surge but both times I totally fell out with dh and was sobbing my heart out. It's totally normal if horrible and it should pass in a day or two. If it doesn't speak to your midwife or health visitor.

Congratulations on your lovely baby and I promise it does get better.

[MaisieDotes]

Nearly everyone gets the "baby blues" around the time their milk comes in, about day 3-5.

Most people get a bit teary and anxious. Do you have any other mums to talk to? A friend or sister or even your own mum?

[Shadow1986]

Congratulations! Google baby blues, day 5 is one of the worst days! It's just hormones, you'll be absolutely fine!

[Believeitornot]

Are you sleeping next to your baby? I couldn't relax unless my baby was sleeping right next to me, which meant the cot was shoved next to my bed. Even at arms length he was too far away.

I wouldn't even do a swap with dh at night until ds was much older. If I let dh take him, it would make me feel worse.

[RedastheRose]

Yes it gets better, it just your hormones. Most new mums feel it to some extent but some ore than others. Tell your midwife and or health visitor, also please don't be afraid to ask for help or reassurance from friends and family. You are not a rubbish mum, your baby will be fine, everything negative you feel is being exaggerated in your mind.

[beekeeper17]

Don't worry, it's completely normal and should pass soon. Your hormones are doing crazy things at the moment and the result is making you a bit of a blubbering mess. I remember spending literally a whole day crying around day 4 or so and the midwife told me it was a great sign as it showed my body was doing what it was meant to do. Didn't feel too great at the time though. Ride it out and go easy on yourself.

[CrazyLittleCow]

Baby blues. They're absolutely awful. I felt horrific for 3 weeks and then much, much better.

Don't be afraid to speak to the GP if you feel really bad but give it a few weeks if you feel able to as may well just be hormonal

[Courtney10891]

Thank you all so much for you replies. Hope I feel better soon. I just can't stop worrying about him like something's wrong. Feel sick with anxiety and fear. Really hope it passes soon and I can being a mum x

[Fruitcorner123]

How are you feeling now?