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antenatal depression or hormones?

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Becky5W Fri 13-May-16 08:21:51

Hi. I've just found out that I'm pregnant with my 2nd child. We did try and we did want another baby. My lg is just turning 3. It's all happened very fast, we started to try on 26th April and I fell pretty much straight away. I'm only 4 weeks so very early. We were both so excited when the test was positive. However, I'm now very unsure about the whole thing. I feel like I don't want it, but I know if anything was to happen then I would be devastated. I worry about everything and had PND with my lg. Is this type of antenatal depression or is it just my hormones? Everything I think about being pregnant, I feel sick and start crying. How can I feel like this when it was all I wanted? I feel so terrible when I should be feeing so grateful and happy. Has anyone else been through this? Thanks

Becky5W Fri 13-May-16 08:25:00

Forgot to mention that my feelings have only changed in a matter of days. I found out 10th may and that day was the best day! And now I feel like this?

whiteychappers Tue 17-May-16 14:45:59

Id say its a combination of hormones and the reality kicking in. I've just got to 21 weeks and have been feeling a bit rough. I think when you've had a past history of some kind of mental health issue I never truly goes away. It doesn't mean you aren't happy to be having a baby. For me I've had a rough first trimester and the second trimester hasn't really been much better so I'm not enjoying pregnancy. I'm going to give it a few weeks and if I'm feeling the same I will go to the GP as it might be more than just hormones x

Becky5W Tue 17-May-16 21:32:45

Thank you for replying. It's so difficult isn't it? I hope you are okay. Sending good thoughts x

whiteychappers Wed 18-May-16 10:07:24

My hubby has helped me loads this week by making me write down all the things in worried about and then he has gone through the list and put my mind at rest. The last couple of days I have been a bit tearful still but I know its just thoughts. I know I love my baby boy, its just when I'm feeling sick and tired, I think I cant cope with the feelings. Is there anything in particular you are worrying about?

Becky5W Wed 18-May-16 19:10:58

Aw that's good. I already have a 3 year old so don't know if it's because I know what to expect lol or if it's because I know its going to be so much harder with 2. X

whiteychappers Wed 18-May-16 19:34:05

Its probably because it all happened a bit quicker than you were ready for. Mines kind of the opposite, we tried for years and had given up. Part of me is scared in case it goes wrong as its taken us so long to get here, I guess I'm protecting myself. I'm sure it will be hard with two but it cant be that bad if other people do it. That's what I keep telling myself that the population would have died out if it was all bad. I think I feel a bit like I should be enjoying every moment and feel like a bad mother as I'm not feeling that way. Its just such a weird experience not like I guess I had imagined, it didn't cross my mind it would be hard work and so tiring 😊 my hubby keeps reminding me when I think of bad scenarios that have I ever thought of the good scenario that everything will be ok and we will live happy ever after. I guess we just learn to cope x

Becky5W Thu 19-May-16 21:47:54

I like your hubby's way of thinking! Definitely think it's because of how quickly it's happened. But I know that's a good thing. I'm glad things worked out for you, everything happens for a reason. X

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