I'm 22 and 20 weeks. Back in May I was doing my final exams at university when I found out I was pregnant. I moved home to Essex (back to my parents house) from Brighton shortly after. I was so unsure whether to keep the baby as it was a very irresponsible mistake but I have a lovely boyfriend who can support us and in the end it just felt right to have it. Sometimes I feel so in love with my unborn baby. I'm so excited for the future and to meet it and I feel petrified of something bad happening in the pregnancy.
Other times however I just absolutely resent it for what already feels like ruining my life. I spend probably three days a week sobbing about how unhappy I am. I had a good life in Brighton studying and living independently with my friends in a city and being financially independent.
I know I should be grateful and I feel so selfish and awful. My boyfriend has just bought us a flat, we can afford to get by the three of us on his wage and people live on so much less. I just feel so useless and deflated. I bring nothing in. I can't buy anything for my baby. I know for the foreseeable future I won't have any money of my own. I can't afford a car so I have no independence. I'm not even entitled to maternity allowance. I am an entirely kept woman who will soon spend all her days looking after a screaming baby.
I just wanted so much more for myself and I feel so down about it most of the time that I become desperately low. I'm pretty sure I have antenatal depression which surely means I will inevitably be depressed postnatal. If I hate my unborn baby surely it will so much worse when it's actually here. I don't want to continue to feel this unhappy.
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Very down about unplanned pregnancy half way through.
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ipsofacto123 · 11/08/2015 20:08
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