Hello. I was wondering if anybody could help me. I have a nearly twelve month old boy. He has never been an easy baby and always needs constant attention, but has slept very well from 3 months old ( sure I would have killed myself by now If he did not sleep). The last four months I have found looking after him very difficult. He seems continually frustrated and miserable. He has intermittent good days, where he is cheerier, but generally he is extremely hard work to keep entertained and keep content. He makes straining, grunting and growling noises nearly all the time. He can also make babbling noises when he is happy, which is rarely. I don't like going out with him because people look when he makes these noises, I do not see other babies making those noises. All I see when out is babies sitting happily in their pushchairs, placid and docile. While mine squirms and kicks in his sling. He refuses to go in a pushchair, will cry and scream if we try to take him out in it. He is not crawling or walking. He is pulling himself up on furniture but only when I sit him on my lap and encourage him.
I am very worried about him, I think I might have created a monster. A future psychopath. I am particularly worried because I became very depressed in pregnancy with him and had to go on anti depressants. My dad was dying of cancer at the time and I was helping my mum to look after him. He died three weeks after my son was bored. I adored my dad.
I have always suffered from depression and anxiety but before pregnancy and motherhood I have been able to manage well with low dose anti depressants. I have a lovely supportive husband. I know how lucky I am to have him. He is offering to give up work and look after our son while I go to work. I earn less than him so finances would be tight but we could just about get by. Should I try and stick it out or just accept that I am not up to the job?
I try as hard as I can with my son, I play with him constantly through out the day. I cuddle him, I make a huge effort to smile and be positive but I usually run out of steam by the afternoon and end up in tears. When my son has a rare happy day, I am so happy and filled with hope. Then invariably he goes back to being angry and miserable and I go down again. If he was more content I know I would be fine. I am still on anti depressants and I am under the mental health team.
Sorry for this extremely long post, I just feel so hopeless that things will ever get better. I've been hanging on, hoping it will get easier, but the fact that it has been a year makes me doubt any future happiness. Has anyone had experience of post natal depression and a very difficult baby? Did it ever get easier? Can my baby ever be happy or have I permanently damaged him? Thank you in advance for any responses.
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weetabixmini · 19/10/2014 00:12
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