PND support thread?(31 Posts)
Can we have one or is there one?
Ds3 is 5 months, I've been fine for about a week but yesterday today it's floored me again. I really hate this shit of a disease that's plagues me since he was born.
It's merrily destroying my relationship with DP who is so desperate to do something to make me happy but there is nothing.
Can we have a thread dedicated to supporting each other through this, bad days and good.
Today I'm not sure wether to shut myself in on the sofa and cry or to purposely drag myself around to do stuff.
I loath this feeling of sadness that is engulfing me, what on earth do I have to be miserable about? I have a partner who works his arse off to provide for us and make us happy, 3 lovely children and a home, enough money to not worry about the state of the country and yet I'm sitting in my car sobbing outside my house.
Hi Tits and hope you're feeling more positive since your last post? I happened to come across this thread as I have been feeling so down in recent weeks.
I have 3DC, nearly 6, 2 1/2 and 4mnths. Reading your posts sound so similar to how I've been feeling. Have you been to the doctors? I haven't as I think that all they'll do is want me to take antidepressants and I don't want that. I'm usually such a positive person so this is eating me up....
I'm reviving this thread again tonight. I'm feeling so, so low.
My DP is here, we were talking but he's fallen asleep
I'm not doing so well at all this past few days, DP has worked so much and I'm beginning to resent it to a point I'm struggling to keep my mouth shut about it.
DS is into everything and I can't leave him without him crying, if I'm in the room I'm constantly pulling him back from stuff he isn't supposed to touch.
My anxiety levels are through the roof and I've been a really horrible shouty mum to DS1&2.
I have a family around me and yet I've never felt lonelier.
I love them but I hate looking after them ATM, that's awful I know but I just feel suffocated.
Just checking in to see how you both are doing. I just started my counselling and I am thinking things will turn around soon (I hope).
Hope all is well!
I know what you mean about not wanting to have another. My pregnancy was hard too, though not as bad as yours it sounds! That must have been exhausting.
I'm doing okay today. DD has been on antibiotics so she hasn't been sleeping well (as if that were anything new), but she's been so happy despite it all. She's such a lovely baby and I honestly wonder how she's mine sometimes.
Hello MsAkimbo. Yes, it's my first baby (and possibly my last - not sure if I could face another pregnancy like that again, and all my probs are very likely to recur or even be worse a second time).
I am really lucky with my GP I think. She saw me once a week for about a month while I was waiting for the referrals to come though. Really good care all round.
How are you both feeling this weekend?
Sorry to hear kalidasa But glad you've had good support from your gp and others. Is this your first baby?
My gp is hardly ever in his office it seems. I have myself on a waitlist for counselling and I have my first appointment on Wed.
The weather is awful. Found out today DD has an ear infection so I'm a bit hesitant to go out at all.
Hallo titsalina and MsAkimbo. I am also struggling with PND - very low mood and difficulties bonding. My baby is just over four months old and I've not felt good since he was born. I had a truly terrible pregnancy, was in and out of hospital from the week after I missed my period and essentially confined to the flat for the entire nine months. Was in a wheelchair by the end. I don't feel I've come to terms with/recovered from the pregnancy at all.
Have either of you seen the GP? My GP has been very good and I am seeing a therapist at the Anna Freud centre (for infant/mother stuff) in North London, and also a clinical psychologist at the local children's centre (though she will come to the flat if it's tricky for me to get to her). I have to say I've been really impressed with the support offered, although it took a few weeks for the referrals to go through.
The weather really doesn't help does it?! It snowed the entire day here yesterday, I couldn't believe it.
Ugh the weather is terrible. I'd be lost without my pram. Walks seem to keep me sane.
Could your DS be teething?
No sadly DS hates the many slings we've tried, he does often sleep in the pushchair but its started snowing again today he has recently discovered a dummy, I didn't really want him to have one but it gives me 10 mins break.
Oh no! Does a pram/sling usually do the trick? My Dd would live in her sling if I let her.
Glad to hear your felling ok.
I'm not too bad, baby has screamed pretty much all morning, all round Tesco, he's tried but he won't sleep!
sorry to hear about your mum.
I'm feeling a little better today. It was another rough night though. How are you?
Ahh, my MIL is lovely but she has a lot of stuff to deal with on a daily basis, my own Mum is dead and m sisters although bear by they do what they can but their limited by their own resources and family life.
How are you feeling today?
I do have family near. Support however...not so much. My MIL is wonderful but works 2 jobs. She's about all I can rely on.
Funny little creatures babies, DS has always loved a bath but has just screamed solidly all through it, now we're heading towards the worst time, he won't let me move now, he'll fall asleep eventually and if I dare move he'll scream.
Sorry you want to cry, sometimes crying is ok I guess. Do you have family support near by?
I am forever mourning the routines I thought I had. Every day I keep thinking-Today's the day! And it never is. Ever. My child just screamed for an hour-straight. Just because. Now she's smiling at me and I want to cry.
I hear you about the church too. Especially right now as I have little to no faith these days.
There is a couple around here, they're all very geared towards the church and I'm not religious so I feel a bit bad using them
The hardest part is that it's not predictable at all, I can have a whole week feeling quite normal and ok and then wake up and feel lower than ever, no rhyme or reason to it, there doesn't appear to be a trigger.
Sorry, hit enter too soon.
Are you able to go to playgroups or children's centres at all?
I've been there. All too often. I too get asked what would help and I have no idea. Which makes me feel even worse.
Or, I will talk to him about something I've been thinking about and it'll be dismissed because "you're just upset."
Well it's good that we've both got support in our DPs, although I will admit to not always letting on when I'm feeling down I don't want DP to dread coming home to it everyday, probably not the greatest idea I've ever had.
He always asks what will make me feel better, I wish I had an answer for him, I keep telling him that if I don't know myself how can I let him know how to fix the problem.
I sit at home just watching the clock some days until I can go and get him from work so he can take DS and I can breath.
He's actually a lot like yours-very supportive and helpful, loving, but can get disheartened when things get chaotic and I break down and cry. His DF also passed away the day before DD was born and I don't think he's really dealt with it yet.
They're in love with him but they really miss the interaction with DP he's besotted with the baby (they have a different father) and DS2 especially really feels jealous since DS3 has come along.
DP is really supportive of PND but sometimes he pretends like its not an issue and sometimes it really overwhelms him, he says he feels like he can't do anything right, then I feel worse for making him feel worse! How's your DP at supporting you?
I know EXACTLY what you mean. I feel like I have a roommate and a baby. How are your kids with the baby?
No I didn't! I was shocked to get it this time, I was thinking it would be plain sailing but apparently not, the pregnancy was really tough, delivery was out of the blue, blink and you'd miss it event.
DS is lovely but so full time, sounds silly I know but sometimes I just want to curl up on the sofa with DP and have a cuddle and chill out, but instead I have a baby attached to my boob and DP is over the other end of the sofa and we're discussing DS!
I tried Cry it Out for about 5 minutes and it was sheer hell. Even if it did work, which it didn't, what would it prove? That my baby cries a lot before she sleeps. Not helpful at all.
Did you have PND with the other pregnancies?
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