I'm an old hand with depression, handled with alternative therapies mostly and PND which I've used Citalopram for, twice. I can tell I'm on the way down and feel torn about how to handle going back on Citalopram and the impending birth of dc3. I'm looking for some experienced guidance or anecdotes that might help me decide. I have a very supportive dr, husband and friends and no qualms about acknowledging I'm dipping back into depression. But in the end, it's my decision about how to proceed now and you know how hard it is to make decisions when the symptoms start to kick in.
I'm fine on citalopram as long as I go on and off carefully. I was on it for 8mo from ds1 being about 5mo old. Then got pregnant at the same time as coming off. I went on again for 7-8mo when ds2 was about 6wks old and have been off for maybe 10mo. We are really happy that baby 3 is coming, but kind of shocked it happened so fast this time. I expected an age gap of over 2 yrs, but it is 19.5 months again. And it's been a harder pregnancy, with more vicious exhaustion and a bout of sciatica as well as spd. I feel quite old for the first time ever.
I've been managing just on the edge for a couple of months at least now. I talked to the dr, and made sure the midwives knew and so on. But these glum nights and darkness are starting to tip me into feeling like I need to take action. So my options are:
- start back on citalopram now, low dose that might be all I need. I need to start low to avoid headaches. I've another 7-9 wks before the baby arrives (tend to go late) so the pros are that I'll be most likely settled by the birth, and it will take a lot of pressure off me, dh and the kids. So we'd get a nicer run up to becoming a family of 5. But I'm unsure about being on it for the birth. It could feel too much like a plateau and I'd rather baby didn't get introduced to the world with a drugged up mum. I accept I need citalopram sometimes, but I don't like the even-ness of life on it.
- really concentrate on using the SAD lamp, meditation, time alone and other strategies that help me through usually. They've worked so far though I'm still get really low energy/mood days and don't feel that's fair on the kids. Plus, in real life I am a fairly busy SAHM, with a lot to get done before baby arrives and dh is low himself. So though he wants to be (and is) supportive, he's not the most practical of blokes and it is still down to me to "manage" what needs to be done. I'm not getting through it all with these down days pausing progress so often and I'm getting so frustrated. But postponing citalopram for another 2-3 months would mean having a proper start, connecting with baby, without feeling at all medicated. And after baby arrives, I can hopefully start getting in more exercise which really helps.
I can't think of any other options and in writing this it sounds so selfish to me that in my heart I really want to go for option 2 when option 1 is clearly better for the family unit. I do have to do something.
If you have bravely waded through all that, any advice? I promise that even if I seem to argue back, I will be taking it on board.