Need to ask a question.... has anyone else got no sex drive at the moment or am I the only one? Reason I ask is my dp has said that I haven't been as attentive for the last 2 weeks or so and I'm normally very much attentive? I think he's feeling a little not needed at the moment. I do dtd with him at least 4 times a week so that's something but apparently it's not enough lol. Is it normal to feel like this Im just tired....
I don't feel horny at all throughout pregnancy at all. I just feel too sick and rough and now I am in the third trimester everything hurts too much (I am rubbish at pregnancy). If on the very off chance I'm in the mood we'll do it, but my husband accepts it's unlikely to happen very often until a good few months postpartum.
This is our last baby though so he'll cope with a few months of not getting it.
I think your partner needs to understand how pregnancy and birth works. If you have any issues during pregnancy you may be put on a sex ban for the entire pregnancy. You won't be able to have sex for 6 weeks after birth (and you may not want to for far longer than that...)
He doesn't force me. He just has a high sex drive and I do too normally it's just that the last few weeks I've not felt like it as often. He's very good to me and hardly moans about it. Just said he feels like I don't like him at the moment lol x
"He's very good to me and hardly moans about it. Just said he feels like I don't like him at the moment lol x"
Fuck me, what some women have to put up with!
It's pretty unlikely that you will want to have sex 4 times a week when you are heavily pregnant, OP, and it's considered sensible not to have sex for 6 weeks after the birth, even if you feel like it. And you might well not feel like It for longer than that, particularly if you are breast feeding. How do you think he'll feel about that?
I have he's understood now I think. I jut said that Im tired and that I love him and that it will change once I've stopped feeling constantly sick. It's cap cause it's not like I don't want to I just don't have the energy. I also have a 12 yr old and a 14 year old and his 3 year old son lives with us for more than half the week also. So it's pretty tiring looking after the kids and the house and all sorts. I look after my disabled mom too. He gets it just wondered if it was normal to feel like this is all.
OP I think the choice of words you used 'being attentive' kind of suggests you are party to sex or feel obliged to do it/is a chore rather than being a willing partner. You probably don't mean it that way, but it comes across a little like that with the choice of phrase.
I'm 28 weeks pregnant with my second and once again sex is off the menu as I've been poorly virtually constantly. I can count on one hand how many times we've had sex. DH gets his usual urges of course but shrugs it off, doesn't pressurise me or make me feel bad. Doesn't beg or ask twice, he totally gets that growing a baby is really hard work and makes women feel pretty lousy a lot of the time! I do miss the intimacy but I'm huge and it's painful so I know I wouldn't enjoy it and put myself through it just to 'be attentive'.
As long as your DH doesn't make you feel guilty for not being up for it?
He doesn't I don't feel guilty. Just wondered if other people felt the same way u know not in the mood? He makes me feel beautiful all the time. Compliments me and helps with chores and stuff. He really is perfect.
I'm the same. No libido whatsoever! My partner doesn't moan, but says he misses it and missss the connection but he knows that when I'm ready then I'm ready! I'm 9wks so hopefully it will pass soon lol. I normally have a high sex drive but not feeling it! DP is very attentive but I'm not just interested
No, it's completely and totally normal - your body is growing a baby, not trying to get pregnant anymore. It would be quite 'unusual' to feel otherwise at this stage , and will probably get worse before it gets better - the exhaustion you feel in the first 3 months of pregnancy can be killing.Your partner REALLY needs to take this on board and stop nagging you for sex right now. This isn't about him. Any midwife or doctor will tell you (and him) this.
Some women feel really horny later on in pregnancy though! .