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The 2nd broadly Gemini luxury bus.(1000 Posts)
Welcome aboard, for the trip that will take us into the 2nd trimester and beyond, Make yourself comfy as we head towards maternity clothes, new bras, blooming, bumps, scans, and fading ms. Full of chatting,
moaning tmi and mutual support.
Here is the link to our last bus.
Can we add EDDs to it, and how about a little bit about us, like what we do or where we are, or if its our first baby or our 5th cos I'd like to know a bit more about you all.
June 5th, Trainee Clinical Psychologist, my living room , first baby.
Ooh, baby mantra. I pat bump and say "Good baby, sleepy baby".
Apart from that I have very few expectations or plans at all. It feels like such a miracle for little one to be on their way at all that I find it very hard to imagine them actually being here. I would like to be a kind mummy, not judgmental and bossy like my own Mum (who I get along with very well in adulthood, but she wasn't a tender or particularly supportive parent). I very much hope to BF, I plan to cuddle the baby lots, I really hope the baby is good w sleeping as I struggle when I'm tired but above and beyond that its very much wait and see, which is weird for me as usually things are planed and organised to the 'n'th degree....the Librarian in me I assume.
It's bloody scary innit.
Glad to see you're all well and happy. And lovely to see Thunders popping in.
So I've been lying by a pool all week, occasionally getting up to dip my toes in the water or fetch my Mum another cocktail, but mostly just lying there contemplating my bump. I have learnt that baby likes ice cream (kicks enthusiastically to indicate approval) and doesn't like me sunbathing on my tummy (indicated in much the same way) so my tan is rather wonky but I am really relaxed and happy. DH was shocked at how much bump has grown when we got home (possibly all that ice cream) but it was so lovely to see him again and spend the evening just the 3 of us (me,him and our rabbit)
I like the stats list. Can we add EDDs to it, and how about a little bit about us, like what we do or where we are, or if its our first baby or our 5th cos I'd like to know a bit more about you all.
So, I'm Librarina, Ali to her friends which is you! I'm 35, Northern, expecting 1st baby. EDD 7th June. Don't know what it's going to be, just know it has fingers and toes.
Our main mantra is not to do anything just because it's the norm or what other people are doing. It might make people think we're a bit odd at times but we're prepared to make controversial decisions if we think they're in the best interests of the children. On that basis, we're probably going to homeschool. I'm trained to be a teaching assistant up to age 8 so I can manage the early years at least! I was listening to my sister & SIL discussing my niece's bullying. SIL: "Well everyone gets bullied, don't they. It stays with you though..." It upset me because not everyone in the world is a bully & I plan to try & keep my children away from those who are until they've reached the point where they have the self-confidence to deal with it - i.e. once they're past the awkward teenage years! I find it depressing that children are taught that being treated appallingly is 'normal'.
<Gets off soapbox!>
I think they might need strict watching then pear and make sure that DH is completely on your side about it.
they sound a little bit nuts already to me,
Ahh thanks for the heads up Frus! Can't wait for that argument. They think I'm nuts for watching what I eat in pregnancy already and tried to feed me cider and pâté on Xmas eve
pear can you get the pils to agree to the sugar one, my mil was an absolute sod
giving sweet stuff like chocolate and sweets we had a few rows include my taking said sweet stuff out of dds mouth and handing it back half chewed (Strangely that worked a treat)
Thanks kitty Congratulations on your baby girl & to everyone else who has recently found out!
We have discussed a couple of things recently. 1. No sleeping in the bed at the baby stage (probably means no feeding either as I'll fall asleep upright!). 2. Sugary drinks and sweets only allowed at the weekend and not before 3yrs old.
Yeah pear am pleased as punch that my suspicions were right.
kitty any mantras?
Co-sleep, feed on demand when and where baby wants, (but don't stop the car just to feed) refuse to feed in toilets or change rooms, trust your instincts,
And some that I didnt start with but have learnt, don't go to baby groups just to compare/compete, don't hide a SN child away, don't trust anyone that says a test gives 100% results. 5% is a big enough risk to be worried, never trust a HV
this is just my experience btw, and doesn't apply to all HVs, I'm sure there's some good ones, don't sweat it with the socks/hats/mitts, never make promises you can't keep, be firm and consistent (whilst they can give it a good go even the most determined child cannot scream forever, they fall asleep eventually, you just have to wait it out)
And finally communication is the key to everything.
He he I love the whole as many sleepovers etc your little girl will love you in a few years you may wana decide on if you'll let her sleep over with you in the immediate future as that decision will be the big one, believe me lol
That's amazing news pear, you did say you thought it was a boy right from the begining!
Has anyone else got any parenting mantras they've decided to stick to?!?
Trying to think if I've got any, I know we definatly decided under no circumstances was dd ending up in our bed, if she needs soothing we go into her room and do it there she gets to come in first thing to have a bottle and watch cartoons though if we're off ( or daddy has her!!)
I don't ever want to argue with dh infront of her as we did once and she cryed, made me feel very guilty
Frus haha maybe. I hope I will not change my mind on that point though. I want to be the kind of mum that is happy to have the neighbourhood kids just dropping by and have a house full of people. (I have clearly watched too much American TV...). Lots of siblings for baby! But boyfriend and I want to adopt next, ideally older kids or children with special needs (not for quite a few years though, we both need to sort our careers out).
Frus is this your first boy? You thought it was a boy didn't you? I knew I was having a boy.
places I think you might regret this one "as many sleep overs and friends over to play as baby wants" you might want to re-phrase it so you have more control.
Rest are looking good.
Ooh 4 of each and 2 surprises.
Aww look at that, 4 girls v 3 boys at present. Cute Well I wasn't going to share but since I've stopped sharing so much my pregnancy is seriously dragging now at 22w and after all this time chatting it would be rude not to join the list ;-)
kittykats : girl
Blending: one of each
Lor: awaiting but still a surprise we think! hoping to change her mind mwa ha
Have been looking at girly things, how cute is this stuff? Boyfriend and I have also set some ground rules to parenting today. These include: no boarding school, as many sleep overs and friends over to play as baby wants, bed time stories every night and a swing in the garden.
As you can see we are prepared.
Bloody hell I have got a baby brain and oh the places is a girl too!
Oh and I missed Jojo she's having a boy too
Sorry thunder I'm hoping your abit early, the latest bfp I got was cd43 of a usual 30 day ish cycle, that really was mental but it can happen fx
Good to hear from you pear, how did your 20wker go????
Yes a lot of us have had it, stats update:
Blending: one of each
Lor: awaiting but still a surprise we think!
hoping to change her mind mwa ha ha
Were a small crew now!
Come on don't keep us in suspence!!
Thunder sorry to hear that, fingers crossed for next month.
Thunder sorry for your disappointment today. I haven't forgotten how it feels when you get a bfn. Symptom spotting kept me sane in a odd way so keep us updated
I seem to have completely lost track of everything as I thought trumpets was having twins or is that blending?
Has everyone had their 20w scan now then since you're talking about gender?
Thunder you'll be getting some mail in 3-5 days (weather dependant!) so you can always POAS again if there's no sign of AF! Next time you do it you need to give us fair warning & set a specific time to do it so we can all sit around waiting for the result!
I'm sorry Thunder. Damn hormones! They suck when they're not supporting a pregnancy. We're keeping you in our thoughts for next month!
Hey pear!! Give us an update!
I've always wanted to get into quilting....no time like the present when I've got loads of time on my hands these days.
(I did have a good few potential symptoms that are unusual for me, but I think it was just my hormones messing me about)
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