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The 2nd broadly Gemini luxury bus.

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Welcome aboard, for the trip that will take us into the 2nd trimester and beyond, Make yourself comfy as we head towards maternity clothes, new bras, blooming, bumps, scans, and fading ms. Full of chatting, moaning tmi and mutual support.

Here is the link to our last bus.

Ooh scan pics, very photogenic bean there pear. grin,
I have 2.5 years between dds, (which is quite a nice gap) and there will be a 5yr gap between bean and the youngest.

peardrop2 Tue 13-Nov-12 19:34:22

Oh that seems like a nice age gap Frus...enough time to forget the joyful labor experience? Actually don't answer that :-)

Just arranged to call BF tonight for a catch up chat. Going to break the news...eek! So nervous about it because she's in such a different place right now. Really hope pray she has v happy new boyf news to tell me! I just want to be as sensitive as possible about it all but I'm a bit hyper about it at the moment so that's tricky hmm

MrsBri Tue 13-Nov-12 19:49:41

Shapes in my womb?! Should I be worried? :-/

Very cute baby photo there, Peardrop :-)

Race you to baby 2 then?!

peardrop2 Tue 13-Nov-12 20:19:34

Oh sorry Mrs I knew after I wrote that you may take that the wrong way :-) What I meant is that you've got a clear zoomed out shot so you can see what's going on around bean rather then just the uterus if that makes sense? Kind of looks like a fancy sculpture. Oh no does that sound worse :-/ I mean it in a nice fascinating way. Someone please pass me the spade hmm

bringonthetrumpets Tue 13-Nov-12 20:21:37

Yeah, that's what people say and I don't consider myself anymore busy than any other mother with two kids. We had some pretty crazy moments in the beginning, but now I feel like they're easier than ever because they are best friends who go off on their own and completely entertain each other for hours on end. I feel like going from 1 to 2 kids will be shocking to the system no matter the age gap is (so I'm excited to just add to the chaos with #3, weeeee!).

MrsBri Tue 13-Nov-12 20:29:50

Ha ha...ah, that makes sense. I wondered if I was odd then!! I think that it is just more uterus less baby in my shot :-)

Did you speak with your friend yet?

Sorry pear I have to answer I just can't help myself I completely forgot after dd1, but when I got my 1st braxton with dd2 I was straight on the phone to best mate, telling her I didn't want to do it again. But that is more because of my birth experience and lack of being able to handle pain. Dd2s birth was much better. And quite funny looking back on it.

I think I will have my work cut out, as dd2 is complex, but she loves babies, and will enjoy helping and having some responsibilities. But at the end of the day a big or a little age gap really wouldn't make a difference in my case, although its good she will be in school.

MrsBri Tue 13-Nov-12 21:11:12

I can't imagine having 3 children, Frustrated! Good on you!

I've just posted a photo of my belly taken earlier (clothed, don't worry!) as we're charting growth. :-)

Aw cute little baby bump mrs grin
I think 3 children might actually be madness, but i figure my life can't get much more manic than it already is. confused grin

MrsBri Tue 13-Nov-12 21:26:31

Did you always want / plan 3, or is it a recent decision?

I'm going to be the size of a house come 9 months!

We had planned 3, but the gap between 1 and 2 was smaller than originally planned, and this gap a little bit bigger, but all is good. Dd1 took over a year ttc, but 2 and 3 were much less.
I think 3 is a good number. And because of the bigger age gap they can be useful and able to help (fetch wipes and nappies). grin

Do you plan on waddling mrs? are you a semi or a detatched? I plan on being a tower block. wink it will slow down.

MrsBri Tue 13-Nov-12 22:38:32

Hurrah for breeding little helpers, ha ha!

I'll be an entire row of terraces! :-) With a massive waddle.

peardrop2 Tue 13-Nov-12 23:30:15

Aww look at your baby bump! I'm going to take one tomorrow to show you, fun idea. Although I'm positive mine is just fat because when we hear the baby's heartbeat it's still below my belly button so I can only assume its fat. Or is it our uterus preparing for the baby. TBH I'm a bit confused hmm

Ok, I was on the phone for 1.5hrs hence the delay. Should not have had that 6pm nap as now not tired! BF took it a lot better then I expected. She said she was expecting it so that helps a lot I guess. She seemed genuinely happy for me so that was nice. Feels even weirder telling her. Still feel like I'm making this all up and lying to everyone grin

peardrop2 Tue 13-Nov-12 23:32:36

Frus that sounds nice having mini helpers. I'd like 3 too. I'd actually like 4 but I know that's a lot of work and my DH has already said 3 is his limit so we've compromised on that number for now ;-)

peardrop2 Tue 13-Nov-12 23:34:22

So you have 2 girls Frus. Are you hoping for a boy this time then? Silly question I know because what you're really hoping for is a healthy baby!

bringonthetrumpets Wed 14-Nov-12 01:27:59

No worries, pear DH wants 4 just doesn't know it yet. He was a bit reluctant to start trying for this one because we've finally been able to sleep through the night and now we're back at square one at being sleep deprived for a year. Hooray! hmm

We told the boys tonight! My oldest (4) just looked at me and said "Why?" and that was the end of the discussion! I'm sure the questions will come soon enough....

peardrop2 Wed 14-Nov-12 04:28:37

trumpets that's so cute. I can just imagine a 4 year old boy asking why! My 7 year old nephew rang me the other day to ask if we're having a boy or a girl (would have been cute If he wasn't shouting it down the phone) I let his mum explain why we don't know yet. I see your point about two being hard work no matter what the age gap is, I guess only time will tell when it's right to start trying again and as we all know so well it's not like we can pick a conception date!

Jojoba1986 Wed 14-Nov-12 07:08:41

I'd quite like 4 but DH only wants 2 so the plan is to have 2, wait 4 years, & then bully him discuss the idea of more!

I'm watching Hoobs again... Today we learnt about yawning & different ways to make cabbage hoobage more palatable! It'll be on channel 4+1 soon if anyone wants to catch it! wink

I remember my 7 year old niece calling me to retell me that her mum was pregnant: "Jojo, DH, mum's havin' a bay-bee" followed by exactly when it would happen, which hospital & that we should come visit in the hospital afterwards! All in an answerphone message that I managed to record & have saved on my computer! grin

MrsBri Wed 14-Nov-12 07:29:05

I only want 2...unless pregnancy number 2 is twins, DH has no choice as I won't be doing it again! :-)

LibrarianAli Wed 14-Nov-12 07:36:32

I think I'd like two, but we'll see how this first one goes.
I do have a secret hope that this one will turn out to be twins. We're quite late in our group of friends to have a baby and nooone else has had twins (competitive much?!)

Jojoba1986 Wed 14-Nov-12 07:42:34

Oh yes, if this time is twins it'll be 3 for us. Which is really ironic because I always swore I wouldn't have 3, being a middle child!

jojo if its twins which one will be the middle child? Eek twins would make my count 4.

Jojoba1986 Wed 14-Nov-12 09:34:54

The middle child issue won't be such a problem as it was in my family if we have twins. The main problem was that there was 2 years between me & my brother but 6 between me & little sister. 'The girls' were always grouped together which left me playing with toys far too young for me & her growing up too fast. I was very naive for my age which led to bullying issues at school. I can't help feeling that things would've been different if my parents hadn't left such a gap between us! I guess it was more the age gap & them treating us the same that was the problem, rather than it being a middle child thing! Given that there'll be a maximum of 20 months between these 2(/3?) I don't think we'll have that problem! grin

kittykatskumkwat Wed 14-Nov-12 10:11:16

Ahhh pear it's a little baby ( just had a look at your pics) love when you can see a proper face shape!
Nic, that was a really zoomed our pic, very clear though!!
There will be a maximum of 20 months for me to Jojo, would have only had a 16/17 month age gap of I hadn't had a mc but now looking at that fact makes me go eeek!!
I was desperate for another a month after dd was born and from then on but looking back it was because new borns are easy ( I had a good sleeper) when they hit 1you think crap this looking after kids milarkey is really hard! wink not that I'd change it

kittykatskumkwat Wed 14-Nov-12 10:11:51

Oh and welcome Ali! grin
Only a week til my scan!!!

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