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Due dec 2012 - the long slow bit

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Hi thought if do this and try and link before we ran out!!!

PurplePidjin Mon 15-Oct-12 20:21:06

Same with dn, there were signs before but massive regression within days of the jab. No proof though (and i only really have dp's side of things)

We're all excited for you <<squidge>>

WerewolvesDoTheFandango Mon 15-Oct-12 20:14:49

And Emily you're really not a shit mum. I've had both of mine this week and you've done what's best for you and the baby. Flu is very dangerous for pregnant women and you did as the midwife advised. Don't let it get you down sad

WerewolvesDoTheFandango Mon 15-Oct-12 20:12:12

new link before we run out ladies x

emilyeggs Mon 15-Oct-12 20:05:03

No, he's not even certain it's the mmr, just put the dots together. After all it was his mums decision to have mmr jab. I don't know, it will blow over I guess. Just ate my dinner alone as he doesn't want his now

PurplePidjin Mon 15-Oct-12 19:41:48

He's probably shitting it because of the possible genetic link, too. Dniece (7) is severely autistic and apparently (i didn't know them then, sil's dd) regressed within days of her mmr. It keeps me awake at 3 am sometimes - 8 years of working with people with SLD and i have no idea how I'd cope with parenting an SN child apart from knowing that i would, somehow, cope.

Does he blame himself for her difficulties?

emilyeggs Mon 15-Oct-12 19:36:36

Forgot to say I feel like that's double standards regarding the jabs

emilyeggs Mon 15-Oct-12 19:35:38

Thanks spotty and purple, I think it might be to do it with the fact that his half sister (who is now 18) is severely autistic. He noticed she changed after having the MMR jab. He then paid for his son to have the separately but after he split with his ex he never found out what immunisation his daughter had. He says it's just not him to get excited about prams, cots, car seats ect but this is probably the only baby I'll have and as my mum has passed away I'd like to have someone to share it with. sad feeling really sorry for my self now

SpottyTeacakes Mon 15-Oct-12 19:18:25

Oh emily he probably feels a bit uninvolved as men can to start with. Obviously that's no excuse and I firmly believe you've done the right thing for your baby smile

PurplePidjin Mon 15-Oct-12 19:15:07

If it were too much for the baby, surely the trained and experienced medical professionals wouldn't be pushing us to have it? You revised your position based on new information, seems sensible to me.

And if you're a bad mother for having both on the same day, so am i and thousands of other mums!

Mw reckons the current wc outbreak is all down to the backlash from MMR/autism 16 years ago, when many parents refused all combined vaccines. Bad parenting?

emilyeggs Mon 15-Oct-12 19:08:38

I'm off to the sobbing sofa, dh made me cry. I had my wc jab today, dh and I had discussed the flu jab and he felt it might be to much for the baby to get all that in one go. Well when I was with the nurse she reassured me it was safe and the best thing to do really. When I got home dh was really cross with me, said I went over our decision. I wouldn't mind so much but anything else I've asked an opinion on he's always left it to me (it would be nice to feel he had an opinion). Even when we were talking about the flu jab he never looked into it. Just went by how he feels and no real medical basis. Now I feel like a bad mother sad

WerewolvesDoTheFandango Mon 15-Oct-12 19:02:57

Oh how lovely us that swing strawb?

I've just watched DP devour the delicious ballerina cupcake that my friend made me. envy Not convinced my blood sugar reading would've been great after buttercream icing!

Having house photos taken by estate agent tomorrow then we can do the nursery and assess what we need! Yay! I want to nest!

StrawberrytallCAKE Mon 15-Oct-12 16:36:27

We didn't have one last time but I'm thinking this time I have one set of arms and two children so it might be more useful grin

I love that swing strawberry

StrawberrytallCAKE Mon 15-Oct-12 15:08:56

nutella I think stokke must have had me in mind when marketing everything they have ever made as I loved the sleepi thingie too but really can't justify how much it costs so went for a normal cotbed. It's not just the basic pack and then the extension pack, it's the mattresses and the sheets are mega expensive too....they are the apple of the baby world.

We got a cheapy moses basket from mamas and papas on sale, this one - pink lemonade. My lovely mum has bought us this swing from mamas and papas too swing which I am very excited about because I can plug my ipod in and have her listening to music I choose rather than standard baby twinkles, or even some nursery rhymes.

itsMYNutella Mon 15-Oct-12 14:03:16

Dream my first thought was to pick up the IKEA bed new instead of used... but we don't have a lot of room so wasn't going to bother with a moses basket... In total the little version (it's one of the few things that is actually cheaper here compared to the UK) would be about €100 more than the IKEA+mattress one hmm

23 posts left, who wants to start the next thread (and link to save all the cyberspace waddling wandering)

MyDaydream Mon 15-Oct-12 13:53:36

I don't think I've had hiccups yet, I was a bit disappointed he had a bit of a quiet weekend and my mum didn't get to feel him kicking. I did have a cup of tea yesterday and everyone in the room could hear it making strange noises as it made its way through my body. Everyone kept laughing at me because it was just so loud.
nutella we've gone for a cheap-ish cotbed for his room that I'll put him in for naps in the day and a second hand crib for next to our bed for the night time. I'd never ask for something extravagantly more expensive than we'd buy ourselves but if I was you I'd ask for your in laws to get the cot and get myself a Moses basket or crib for the bedroom.
pidj I'd agree with Nutella and just drop a quick message to see if the offer still stands.

itsMYNutella Mon 15-Oct-12 13:46:14

Pidj I think if you contact the ex-colleague and say that you were wondering if the moses basket was still available they wouldn't mind...

Walnut8 I saw the Stokke thingy before and totally love it... but of course that is a bit pricey... I sent a link to DP as a joke and he said that it looked great and I told him I was kidding because of the price but he seemed to think it was fine confused - that would be for the mini bit and then we would buy the extension kit ourselves next year.

PurplePidjin Mon 15-Oct-12 13:24:42

I do prefer to lie on my side, and dp is a very light sleeper...

An ex-colleague (she was ex when she offered) promised us a moses basket back in July, I'm wondering if it would be rude to contact her and ask if the offer still stands. We're not in touch normally, and my parents' neighbours have also offered...

Walnut8 Mon 15-Oct-12 13:08:47

Am in total awe of those hiccups Pidj?!

Walnut8 Mon 15-Oct-12 13:07:48

Nutella, do you mean fancier as in a new bed and a moses? Or just a fancier new bed? We have a moses and I would highly recommend it for the first 3 months - you can put it right next to your bed on the floor and also take it around with you (we had DD near us as we watched tellie in the evenings so that I could check on her constantly when she was newborn!)

PurplePidjin Mon 15-Oct-12 12:55:37

PidjChick had hiccups at 4am the other day so violently it woke me up... In fact, so violently he shook the bed and woke dp as well!

itsMYNutella Mon 15-Oct-12 12:53:17

Clarella I really don't know how you are coping with the things you have going on around you in your home. We have emptied out our baby corner and it is now papered (hurrah)and it needs painting and decorating...

Speaking of decorating the baby corner... We were going to buy a second hand IKEA bed with a new mattress. But BIL and SIL want to buy a new bed for us and that gives us the option of something a bit fancier... which got me thinking about how the baby would sleep in our room because I hadn't considered a Moses basket but I'm not sure about having the baby sleep in bed with us.

What would you ask for? Something really fancy - at least fancy compared to IKEA - or stick with what you were doing originally?

Walnut8 Mon 15-Oct-12 12:50:35

Clarella, I hope you don't need the medication and phone charger etc urgently?!

Is it bad that I can't be bothered with hypnobirthing this time around? I don't even want to think about the whole labour thing - it just makes me panicky and tired!! grin I do have a refresher antenatal course booked for Weds evening - I'm sure that will scare some sense into me.

Walnut8 Mon 15-Oct-12 12:47:42

Yes, I've been getting a lot of clicking/popping - sounds a lot like bubble wrap, good description! I had this with DD too. I wonder whether it is fluid being "snapped" around? Also had hiccups down REALLY low today ... as in the bottom of my spine at coccyx level?! Also a lot of snotty cm at one point this afternoon (sorry TMI!), which completely freaked me out. Have decided tomorrow is the day for washing all the new baby gear I have up to 3 months, and the moses masket bedding! Have also booked DH in for a shopping session on Sunday to look at car seats and a double buggy. I have decided DD really needs to be "strapped in" at times (eg grocery shopping!!) and therefore a buggy board on the old buggy isnt going to cut it. Has anyone else bought a double buggy?

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