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To take breastfed DD with me to training?

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whynowblowwind Wed 11-Jun-14 17:39:30

I got a job the other day smile but I have to do a course on safeguarding. This lasts about 3 hours from approximately 9-12.

DD is 2 months; she is exclusively breastfed at the moment. I am wondering what to do about this course and wondered if I could just take her with me? It's quite am informal course they said and there will only be about 5 or 6 of us in total.

Alternatively I could ask a friend to have her but she won't take a bottle at the moment and still feeds very frequently.

What's best?

AgaPanthers Wed 11-Jun-14 17:41:33

For only 3 hours, once? Get friend to look after baby.

magpiegin Wed 11-Jun-14 17:41:49

I wouldn't just turn up with the baby without asking first. In my job it wouldn't be acceptable as they would be concerned that you wouldn't be concentrating 100% and would be worried about her disrupting the others if she cries or needs changing etc.

Samedaydifferentusername Wed 11-Jun-14 17:46:41

Can you not delay the course until you are more confident to leave dd?

Presumably you will need to start making plans for leaving her to go to work?

whynowblowwind Wed 11-Jun-14 17:46:54

Oh, I'd definitely check first! I wouldn't just show up with her.

Aga the problem is I'd have to drag friend down from an hour or so away and she's just not that into babies ... So I COULD as a last resort but it's not ideal.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Wed 11-Jun-14 17:47:26

I had to do something similar at work when my DS was a few months. My Dad actually came with me and took my DS for a walk in the park and then to a cafe. I had my phone so if DS was desperate my Dad could bring him round for a feed and then take him away again. It was actually fine as I fed DS just before I went in and then again when I came out. If the training's near to home then would be even easier. I don't think I'd actually take your DD to your training though; it doesn't seem very professional.

InMySpareTime Wed 11-Jun-14 17:47:45

I took DD with me to all my OU tutorials when she was a baby. Then again, I was studying Inclusive Education so they couldn't exactly exclude me or her, could they?

whynowblowwind Wed 11-Jun-14 17:47:46

I'll only be doing about 8 hours a week, it's agency work for a care agency so I'll do an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening, you see.

WorraLiberty Wed 11-Jun-14 17:48:09

You need to ask the people providing the training, not MN.

How will you manage when you start your job though?

FloozeyLoozey Wed 11-Jun-14 17:48:48

I don't think it would be fair on the others to have a baby there to distract them and disrupt proceedings. Babies are lovely but a professional environment is not the place for them, or any kids.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Wed 11-Jun-14 17:49:10

I would totally take the baby - but check first, as you say.

FunkyBoldRibena Wed 11-Jun-14 17:49:50

Don't ask us - ask the tutor!

hippo123 Wed 11-Jun-14 17:49:53

Have you started the job yet? If so yabu and will have to make arrangements. if they are asking you to do a course a few months before you start then I think you may have a bit of a case, but I'm afraid it would still seem rather unprofessional.

whynowblowwind Wed 11-Jun-14 17:50:54

Worra I'll literally be doing an hour in the morning and one in the evening, just doing breakfast and bed for a lady in my village.

I will hopefully increase my hours as dd gets older but it's just the safeguarding training is mandatory and I don't really have anyone to have her, although I could ask my friend she'd be a bit eye rolly, I'm almost certain she would though.

hippo123 Wed 11-Jun-14 17:51:42

Do you have a dh /dp?

WorraLiberty Wed 11-Jun-14 17:53:25

Ahh that makes sense.

I really don't think they'd be happy with a baby there though, in case of disruption. Also, I'm sure you'd find it hard to concentrate too.

Is there a creche at the training place?

TheCraicDealer Wed 11-Jun-14 17:54:52

No, for a one-off I don't think it's appropriate. The difference with tutorials etc at uni is that the other people in attendance get used to the baby being there and it ceases to be a distraction. If I went to a one-off session and there was a baby there I would keep staring at it. Because I love babies.

There'll be a break in the middle at some point. Get Dfriend to bring baby and sit in a nearby coffee shop. You can either nip out to feed during the break or ask permission to leave to go feed her if it's necessary.

MsMessyandtheTidyBoys Wed 11-Jun-14 17:55:51

Based on my DS as a baby I would've said no way. However, I was at a 5 hour training course yesterday that someone brought a little one to and it didn't disrupt it at all. Depends on your baby and if the tutor is ok with it

idontlikealdi Wed 11-Jun-14 17:59:51

No, I don't think it's appropriate. Everyone will be cooing over your gorgeous baby and not concentrating on the course.

whynowblowwind Wed 11-Jun-14 18:05:00

Thanks - there isn't a crèche, as the agency is just run from a home type place and the training is upstairs. So I did think I could feasibly bring a rocker and she'd probably sleep through mostly. I'll ask tomorrow, though.

I've got a DH but he will just whinge!

londonrach Wed 11-Jun-14 18:07:37

Agree with Idont. Can't you express and ask a friend

whynowblowwind Wed 11-Jun-14 18:08:19

No, she doesn't take a bottle.

Fairenuff Wed 11-Jun-14 18:09:45

What do you mean, your dh will just whinge?

Figster Wed 11-Jun-14 18:10:47

It's inappropriate and unfair on the others if she doesn't settle.

When do you start the job and who will have dd when at work?

thenightsky Wed 11-Jun-14 18:10:50

I'd expect the DH to do it. It's only 3 hours.

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