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why do some women look you up and down?

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fridgealwaysfull Mon 16-Dec-13 19:03:13

Went to a friend's party on Saturday and wore a smart bodycon black dress, I felt I looked good but my confidence took a blow when I noticed a friend looked me up and down, checking me out from top to bottom. Why do a lot of women do this?

WowOoo Mon 16-Dec-13 19:05:14

Just to look at you and see what you are wearing I suppose.

Some do it very blatantly. I wouldn't get offended by it - she probably thought 'she looks nice'. No?!

Rosencrantz Mon 16-Dec-13 19:06:02

I do this. But it's when someone looks shit hot. I'm either admiring, or using her for fashion inspiration.

Hassled Mon 16-Dec-13 19:07:19

I have a friend who does this all the time. It freaks me out tbh. There's definitely some "how's she looking compared to me?" stuff going on in her head but she can't realise how obvious it is.

ShatnersBassoon Mon 16-Dec-13 19:07:30

Men do it to me.

SantyClaws Mon 16-Dec-13 19:08:42

if it was me it would be my brain going 'ooh nice dress...let's have a look at her shoes..' grin

So don't assume it was a negative look.

msvee Mon 16-Dec-13 19:09:43

Id be more worried if people didn't look at you. Some women are bitchy but most just look at what your wearing. She might have wanted to ask where did you get it from.

harticus Mon 16-Dec-13 19:10:49

People do this to me because I am very tall - they always check to see if I am wearing platform heels or standing on a box or something.

It is annoying and creepy. A bit like women that stare at your tits.

hoboken Mon 16-Dec-13 19:11:16

Obv because they are jealous of your dress/looks/air of confidence etc!

TwattyBojangles Mon 16-Dec-13 19:11:20

I catch myself doing this to people when I'm having a nosy at their outfit. I usually realise after that it may have looked very rude.

MrsLouisTheroux Mon 16-Dec-13 19:11:52

So of they are thinking "wow, I love that dress/ she looks good" then why don't they follow up the looking up & down with " Wow, you look nice/ I love your dress" ?? Hmm?!

DontCallMeDaughter Mon 16-Dec-13 19:12:34

I do this. I have a thing about shoes... So if I clock a good outfit, I'll check check out the shoes... Which obviously looks like I'm looking someone up and down. But it's just out of interest, not being mean, if you felt good, you probably looked good and she was just checking out your outfit, I would try not to jump to the conclusion it was judgemental....

MrsLouisTheroux Mon 16-Dec-13 19:12:41


perplexedpirate Mon 16-Dec-13 19:13:02

To look at you, of course!
If you're wearing a beautiful dress, people are going to want to see. I would assume you looked lovely.

Thants Mon 16-Dec-13 19:13:23

Just to see what your wearing. Or checking you out.

manicinsomniac Mon 16-Dec-13 19:16:27

Either because somebody looks particularly good or because they look particularly bad.

I'd never thought about it until I saw it on a tv programme ('did you just bodycheck me?' or something like that.) Now I'm paranoid that I do it really obviously.

fridgealwaysfull Mon 16-Dec-13 19:16:27

I suppose I did look good, went to hairdresser, make up etc so I looked better than when I'm doing the school run, but it freaked me out, made me feel self conscious. It was too obvious and she could have followed through with a 'love you dress' comment. but she didn't sad

cathpip Mon 16-Dec-13 19:17:53

I got the up and down look in Paris, I had just made dh buy me the dress that matched the shoes I liked in a posh boutique (his fault that we were in there) and was carrying 2 mahoosive bags. I was soooo chuffed, still am 6 years later (she was very posh looking!). Dh has learnt his lesson also smile

YouStayClassySanDiego Mon 16-Dec-13 19:20:19

I do it but in an admiring way.

I always look at what others wear, it's meant as a compliment.

I'd never sneer at what someone else wears.

ZeViteVitchofCwismas Mon 16-Dec-13 19:23:53

I have never done it when I thought someone didnt look great because I dont care usualy what women wear and I look shite most of the time, however, when a woman looks lovely or I like what she is wearing I will try and subtly have a good look. so it may not always be negative...

GinAndaDashOfLime Mon 16-Dec-13 19:24:43

It has NEVER crossed my mind that this was complimentary. Whenever a woman's done it to me I've felt totally intimidated, like silent bullying which you can't ever respond to.
IMO it's really really rude. If you're someone who does it then if you're doing it in a complimentary way FFS say something!
and if you're doing it in a bitchy way you can fuck off

bongobaby Mon 16-Dec-13 19:24:59

I always look at women up and down, because I admire what she is wearing and how she has carried it off.I always follow it up with "where did you get your dress/shoes from,you look lovely. Luckily I have never recieved a your a weirdo answer back as yet!

BroomstickRider Mon 16-Dec-13 19:26:01

My aunt does this, this is because she is very nosey and wants to gleam as much information as possible from people's appearances! grin My mum has told her many times it looks rude.

I hope I don't do it obviously, and if I do it's because I think someone is looking good.

mrsjay Mon 16-Dec-13 19:32:31

she probably thought you rocked the dress grin don't worry about it try and keep your confidence what other women think or not really isnt important

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Mon 16-Dec-13 19:33:09

I agree with Gin. Don't just do it and say nothing if you think the person looks nice. This has happened to me loads of times and I always feel uneasy.

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