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To get fed up of people judging women for going out with men who are worth millions?

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Lighthousekeeping Mon 21-Oct-13 00:07:44

That it can only be for the money? All the time I see/hear it. No-one ever says Kate Moss's husband must be with her for the money. Or any other female a list celeb with a bloke in a band or a bloke that has an ordinary job. Just seems to me that women are easily seen as gold diggers. Why would that be?

Darkesteyes Mon 21-Oct-13 00:16:19

Agree Lighthouse I was just reading the Trinny thread too.. when ppl use the term gold digger they are usually referring to a woman.
Two years ago i thought there was no wording for the male equivalent and then i joined MN and discovered the word cocklodger I use the word in RL whenever someone uses the "gold digger" terminology.
They soon change tack grin

Millipedewithherfeetup Mon 21-Oct-13 00:16:34

Disagree actually, think Kerry Katona and what's his name taxi driver bloke.

WilsonFrickett Mon 21-Oct-13 00:21:32

Well I dont disagree with you, but on the Trinny/saatchi thread people are trying to work out what her motivation is for starting a relationship with an alleged wifebeater. That's hard to understand, so people search for other reasons - money, power, social cachet etc.

So while I would agree that society does judge women for going out with rich men, I'm not really agreeing that is what's happening on that other thread if this is a thread about a thread

Lighthousekeeping Mon 21-Oct-13 00:21:48

Kerry is bankrupt

Lighthousekeeping Mon 21-Oct-13 00:23:45

Peaches Gelolf is another one. Judging by her new house in the country daddy must've spent millions. Her bloke is in a band that's had no success I don't see anyone calling him a god digger though.

Lighthousekeeping Mon 21-Oct-13 00:24:10

Gold even

Millipedewithherfeetup Mon 21-Oct-13 00:34:01

Yes think it was taxi driver bloke what's his name that made her bankrupt.

TombOfMummyBeerest Mon 21-Oct-13 00:37:03

What about Britney Spears and her ex...what's his face?

Lighthousekeeping Mon 21-Oct-13 00:41:21

Kevin? What I mean is that it's not as often that you hear people saying that a bloke is a gold digger compared to women. It's just actually been said on Chelsea Lately my guilty pleasure

WallyBantersJunkBox Mon 21-Oct-13 00:45:32

Didn't people call Amy Winehouse's guy a gold digger?

My DH's Ex wife called him a gold digger when he met me. Apparently there wasn't anything about me that he could possibly like apart from my money.

I earned £8000 more than him PA. grin

CeliaLytton Mon 21-Oct-13 00:53:10

<ponders what a god digger would get up to>

<misses point of thread entirely>

EldritchCleavage Mon 21-Oct-13 01:10:16

Fed up with.

EldritchCleavage Mon 21-Oct-13 01:10:28

And no, you aren't.

MiniMonty Mon 21-Oct-13 02:19:09

Gold digger works either way... For either sex.
I bet it's no fun to be on the receiving end of the accusation whoever you are. And that means famous (splashed all over the papers for a few days) or just normal folk (reputation and chat around the playground which lasts for years and years)...

Let's paint a picture: you meet someone you like, they like you, they are richer then you - ipso facto - you are a gold digger !
Doesn't really add up does it?

But try this difficult challenge:
Twin one is great looking, caring, witty, charming bright and funny - works now and then as a night porter in a prison.
Twin two is great looking, caring, witty, charming, bright and funny - runs a multinational and has limitless personal wealth.

They both like you.
Are you a gold digger?

And what if you are on the other end of this ?
What if you're a fabulously rich bloke - should you only be "allowed" to date women as rich as you for fear of any female you get involved with being labelled a "gold digger"?

Difficult to scream around about women being in the boardroom, in government and in positions of power if those same women can't accept "gold digger" men who will be attracted to the money and lifestyle.

Gold Digger works both ways and I LIKE IT because I see nothing wrong with anyone looking to hook up with someone who has deep pockets.

Degustibusnonestdisputandem Mon 21-Oct-13 08:07:14

My sister is a gold digger, & proudly refers to herself as one

(ok, she's a senior exploration geologist in Oz gold mining industry grin )

Lighthousekeeping Mon 21-Oct-13 11:59:35


Pagwatch Mon 21-Oct-13 12:03:41


I don't think the Trinny thread is a great example tbh.
I think the thread was 'wtf would a seemingly mature intelligent woman play gooey eyes with a man who grabs his partner by the throat or places his hand across her mouth to silence her.

What would the attraction be? The lols?

Pagwatch Mon 21-Oct-13 12:05:27

Tbh I get irritated that women on here almost to a man (hahaha) see me as living off my dhs salary.
It rarely occurs to anyone that I might have my own money.

trish5000 Mon 21-Oct-13 12:10:07

Ah, but who did you get that money from, a man or a woman? grin

Pagwatch Mon 21-Oct-13 12:16:26

I earnt it. So a woman, I think. <checks >>



Viviennemary Mon 21-Oct-13 12:19:24

I think they do say it quite a bit about men too. Liz Taylor's last husband got a lot of criticism for being a gold digger. Or it might have been her last but one.

BaronessBomburst Mon 21-Oct-13 12:22:48

So, Pag, a lesbian gold digger!

<gets on phone to Daily Mail>

LunaticFringe Mon 21-Oct-13 12:28:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Pagwatch Mon 21-Oct-13 12:29:15

<<nods>> guilty...

This does all remind me of the 'what attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels' question to Debbie McGee

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