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In laws have surpassed themselves again

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LittleMilla Sat 20-Jul-13 14:47:13

New baby (DS2) arrived yesterday and we're all over the moon. DH and I decided on name earlier today - Gil(bert) - and in laws have apparently expressed their dislike already. They did the same with DS1 and put loads of pressure on us to call him something else.

I'm aghast they've yet again felt the need to try and control things. DH is fuming.

What the fuck is wrong with people??!??

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 20-Jul-13 14:52:34

Well,they're allowed to not like the name.

Presumably they now like your older child's name? They'll get used to it. Ignore them.

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 20-Jul-13 14:52:49

Congratulations btw! flowers

catinabox Sat 20-Jul-13 14:57:25

Ah. Congratulations!! What a lovely lovely lovely name. I love it. smile

That is a bit rude really. He will grow into his name and they will completely forget that they didn’t like it.

They are obviously stuffy old buggers!

Love the name by the way. Gilbert. Lovely. and Congratulations again. Hope you are all well.

pianodoodle Sat 20-Jul-13 15:05:40


Don't know why people feel the need to be so aggravating after you've just had a baby it's pretty stupid.

arethereanyleftatall Sat 20-Jul-13 15:06:57

Aghast? Fuming? bit ott. So they don't like your choice of name? So what?

youmeatsix Sat 20-Jul-13 15:08:43

congratulations flowers i think Gil is lovely! ignore them, if people cant be nice about a new baby, they should keep quiet

Wibblypiglikesbananas Sat 20-Jul-13 15:10:07

Congratulations! Don't give it a second thought. Your baby, your choice. Enjoy the next few days.

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 20-Jul-13 15:10:29

I don't understand why honesty is considered a great thing until it's regarding naming a child.

I don't expect everybody or indeed my closest friends and family to like the names I give any children I have. It would be nice,but I won't demand it of them.

KoalaFace Sat 20-Jul-13 15:14:36

Trying to get you to change the name is really mean. Nothing you can do though unless you say to them "you've really hurt our feelings." People like this tend to just do and say whatever they want.

Gilbert is a lovely name. Congratulations.

googietheegg Sat 20-Jul-13 15:15:09

Congratulations! It's a fab name. I remember that everything, EVERYTHING hurts more when you've just had a baby - physically and emotionally. I think women who've had babies fall into two camps - those them remember how tricky those first few weeks are and those who have forgotten. Your mil is in the second camp, as is mine.

ZillionChocolate Sat 20-Jul-13 15:15:14

Depends on what they said really. If it was unsolicited then it's rude.

Ignore them and enjoy your lovely new baby.

FirstStopCafe Sat 20-Jul-13 15:16:51

Congratulations. I understand why you're fuming. Of course they are allowed to dislike the name but there is absolutely no need for them to let you know. I think it's a fab name

Twirlyhot Sat 20-Jul-13 15:17:22

Unfortunately the advice given on the Baby name board, about not telling anyone the name until they're born, assumes you have ILs who would never be so rude as to criticise a name that's already been given.

Wishfulmakeupping Sat 20-Jul-13 15:18:04

Just ignore them

pumpkinsweetie Sat 20-Jul-13 15:20:15

It isn't about what other people want, names are a personel choice and i do understand why you are annoyed, they didn't have to express their dislike.

I like unusual names and have been put off and badgered in the past by ils. They certainly won't like the names chosen for my present unborn child but when they find out it's tough if they don't like it, he or she isn't their child!!!

Tbh if they are the older generation i cannot see why they hate the name so much as Gilbert is an old fashioned name. Sounds to me like they are being arsey!

Twirlyhot Sat 20-Jul-13 15:22:36

'I don't understand why honesty is considered a great thing until it's regarding naming a child.'

It' not confused. When someone shows you their engagement ring or their new home you don't say, 'that's a bit small' or 'I don't like that.' You smile and say 'how lovely.' Basic social skills surely. It's 10x as important when it's about their DC.

badguider Sat 20-Jul-13 15:23:05

I would never tell anybody I didn't like the name they'd chosen. What is the point of that 'honesty'? It's just hurtful and unnecessary. Nobody is asking YOU if you like the name.

If an adult said "hello, i'm Gil" you wouldn't reply "that's not a very nice name" would you??


pumpkinsweetie Sat 20-Jul-13 15:33:21

Good point bad!

HollyBerryBush Sat 20-Jul-13 15:34:17

Are you using the full name? of course lots of names have connotations and alternative meanings. "a gilbert" means a bogie, so depending where you live, you may have set him up for a life time of green snot jokes. Or not.

Pollydon Sat 20-Jul-13 15:36:06

What a lovely name! Congratulations flowers

Twirlyhot Sat 20-Jul-13 15:36:08

Where HollyBerryBush?

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 20-Jul-13 15:38:34

You only had your baby yesterday Op and your'e on MN talking about a minor thing.
Go and enjoy your lovely baby and chill with him.
Your ILs will get over it, don't let them spoil your first days with your brand new baby.
Gil's a fab name.

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 20-Jul-13 15:39:20

Well I wouldn't volunteer out of nowhere I didn't like a name given to a child. But if I was asked I would be honest.

EvieanneVolvic Sat 20-Jul-13 15:46:15

A million congratulations to all four of you.

Now: turn your attention to your brood and forget about the in-laws...where on earth are you finding the inclination/energy to complain about it publicly?

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