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That Boys should only have 'blue' coloured toys??

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Hammy01 Wed 11-Nov-09 07:46:47


I bought yesterday a second hand V-smile TV games console thing with 6 games for £25...a bargain I thought - credit crunch and all that!
I bought it for my son who will be 3 on New Years Day.
However, my husband has been going on and on about how the colour of the console is a 'girls' colour - pink/purple and that boys should only have blue.
I can see his point but FFS, I've got this for £25, they cost more than that from Amazon and tbh I don't think kids really care about colours.
Its not like a pink coat or pink bike, its a flipping console that will be sitting in our front I being unfair by getting this for my son?
I don't want to have to give it back as I think my son will love it but am worried I'm being a horrid parent sad
Thank you for any advice..have to pop off as am at work but will pop back on in a bit

littleducks Wed 11-Nov-09 07:50:02

Well if you had bought him a pink bike just because it was cheaper (not because he had stated a preference) I would think it was a bit mean but a games console, that isnt even portable hmm he is going to watch the tv bit isnt he, and thats not pink

meerkatsandkookaburras Wed 11-Nov-09 07:50:36

im looking at these type toys at moment for ds and been looking at all colours so no i think your being perfectly reasonable!

sybilfaulty Wed 11-Nov-09 07:50:56

He's 3 - he will neither know nor care. Well done on the bargain.

My son is the 3rd in the family after 2 girls so get a number of hand me downs in the wrong colour. I would not want him to wear a dress but am happy with him having other clothes and esp toys in pinks and purples.

GoldenSnitch Wed 11-Nov-09 08:00:20

Your husband would not be impressed with me then! My 2 and a half year old DS is obsessed with my jewellery - especially the cheapy, costume stuff - so I let him wear some of it at home.

It's not going to do him any harm, nor will it "make him gay"

Nor will having a pink/purple console in your sons lounge do him any harm.

Historically, pink was a boys colour anyway as it was derived from red which was seen as dominant and masculine.

differentID Wed 11-Nov-09 08:00:36

Pink is just another colour.
Plus until very recently the convention of blue for boys/ pink for girls was actually the other way around.
Blue was always used to denote innocence and purity ( think of the traditional portrait of the virgin Mary- in blue and white).
Pink was considered to be a watered down version of red- a martial colour and so suitable for future leaders and soldiers, i.e boys and men.

Just remember as well that until very recently in history boys woud have worn dresses until they were between 2 and 6 years.

TheLadyEvenstar Wed 11-Nov-09 08:05:48

DS2 has a pink pram which he pushes his "baby" around in. He wears pink Nappies. And has pink vests....they were in a sale and he needed them.

At the end of the day as others have said Pink is just another colour and not anything to worry about.

PyrotechnicToadstool Wed 11-Nov-09 08:07:50

You can see his point? What point?

cory Wed 11-Nov-09 08:10:20

My 9yo bought himself a pink second-hand DS wiht his birthday money- because it was cheaper and he has enough sense to realise that a pink DS is better than no DS.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Wed 11-Nov-09 08:32:05

What fking point?
- he's 3. He neither knows nor cares what pink is
- pink is just a colour. It will not make your son gay to have pink things
- it's a games console. Never to leave the house
-it was a bargain
-perpetuating thses 'boys have thin, girls have that' bullshit from birth is what keeps boys and girls (and men and women) thinking they are massively different and have license to act in all sorts of ways because they are male or female.

Buy some stickers of something he likes and cover the bloody thing in them. And tell your DH to get over it.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Wed 11-Nov-09 08:32:41


not thses or thin.

Hammy01 Wed 11-Nov-09 09:52:26

Thank you so much ladies!!
When I said 'I can see his point'...was having to try and see both sides of the argument, not just force my usual way of thinking 'I'm right your not!'hmm
I am trying to educate myself that I may not always be right and all of the time so I was 'trying' to be fair lol!
I've never thought girls should have one colour and boys a different one but obviously my dh does. And I cetainly don't think that boys having 'pink' things can make my son 'gay' kids can be whatever they want to be and I'd love them no different. grin
Balls to him then... the majority vote is zip it man - I'm right!!
Thank you!

Disenchanted3 Wed 11-Nov-09 09:59:22

i got this for DS(3) for Xmas

he wants the toy but INSISTED on his list that

he wants the purple one

he goes for 'girls colours' EVERYTIME if theres a choice.

he just prefers them, its not a problem,

pink/purple are his fave colours.

FickleFairy Wed 11-Nov-09 10:06:37

My DS LOVES Wow toys and I really want to get him the Katie's Camper Van

DS says cause it's pink he doesn't think he should have it! hmm

FickleFairy Wed 11-Nov-09 10:06:57

Sorry *DH says not DS

goodnightmoon Wed 11-Nov-09 10:11:32

the outrageous thing is that they actually make these things in "boy" and "girl" colours. Why not just one colour? It's insane how we segment the genders at every turn.
My son has pink and green blocks, I am not concerned!
your DH is being unreasonable.

ILoveStripeySocks Wed 11-Nov-09 10:29:07

I bought my DS (18 months) a pink dolls buggy. I have been looking for a wee tea set for him, and can only find pink ones.

reservejudgement Wed 11-Nov-09 10:35:22

It's marketing, pure and simple. If you are a toy manufacturer and make the toys gender specific, then 50% of parents will have to buy a whole new set of toys for their second child. Genius!

fernie3 Wed 11-Nov-09 10:37:24

my daughter has the more boyish one I dont think it really matters with this sort of thing.

VengefulSinner Wed 11-Nov-09 10:47:15

Doesn't make the blindest bit of difference.

In DS's younger years he wanted so many girly toys to the point where my mum used to call him "one of life's hairdresser's" hmm

Now he is 5 and and at school he is shunning 'girly' toys and colours a little more in favour of colours and toys deemed 'boys toys'.

Don't worry, as long as ds likes it tell dh to lump it! grin

badietbuddy Wed 11-Nov-09 10:49:06

Absolute bollocks. I'll be damned if I'm not going to pass dd's toys onto ds just because they happen to be pink. He is currently pushing around her elc pink pushchair. Why does it matter?

easyoptionwoman Wed 11-Nov-09 11:17:43

I deliberately bought my DD a blue buggy from ELC to play with because I am already sick of the colour fascism that exists. She is 2 and has older brothers and regularly wears their hand me downs. My two boys also slept in a pink bedroom until a year ago - my eldest son actually liked the colour. If they all decide they are gay at a later age I don't think it's because DD had a blue pram and the boys slept in a pink room. Sorry, but your DH needs to get a grip and worry about the important things in life.

Firawla Wed 11-Nov-09 11:25:32

your dh is being a bit ott, although a lot of people have that attitude its silly especially as you got the console as a bargain. just keep it im sure your ds wont care!
my 1.5yr ds seems to have a liking for pink grin at his age he doesn't know anything about boys or girls colours, he just seems to like the colour. it really doesn't matter. if you know someone with a dif colour that wants to swap it, and you can swap for free maybe worth it to make dh happy but dont spend extra buying another just for the sake of its pink!

gagamama Wed 11-Nov-09 12:14:29

It's literally only the game reader bit and the joystick, isn't it? YABU, it hardly matters and you can tuck it behind the DVD player or something if the pink offends him!

radstar Wed 11-Nov-09 14:02:32

ilovestripey socks - the toys r us website has a red yellow and blue teaset x

and op yanbu!

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