to want to get out of the house?(8 Posts)
I have SPD which is now so bad I can barely walk (I can make it around the house with crutches, support belt, painkillers and I am still in pain and can only shuffle slowly).
It got much worse last Thursday, before that I was limited, but could get out for, say a wander around a shopping centre, if I could have a lift there and back and plenty of rest. I hadn't been diagnosed then though, and when the physio did see me, she was alarmed and ordered me to rest or i could do permanent damage.
I have a section booked for monday, so not too long to go, but I know after the section I will have trouble with mobility while I recover, and will also have a newborn to look after. I already have a 2.8 yo DD who has spent most of the past week at the ILs as I just can't look after her in this state.
My mum and Dad are coming to see me for a few days, so i mentioned to DP that I might try and get them to take me and DD to a local supermarket or even the metro centre or something and borrow a wheelchair, just so I can get out, maybe buy a few last minute bits and bobs for the baby and so on. He seems to think I am being stupid, and just causing trouble by not being happy to sit in the house alone for the rest of the week. He says that would be his dream come true, but he has to work.
After DD, I had severe postnatal psychosis, so I am being really careful to look after my mental health this time, and surely sitting on the same settee staring at the walls isn't good for anyone?
Am i being selfish asking my parents to come and take me out places? My mum will have to use some holiday from work to do so, but she offered first. The ILs are lovely, but they are quite a bit older than my parents and i wouldn't be happy asking them to push me about unless it was unavoidable. Also if I seize up (which is happening more and more as the days go on) I'm not sure they could lift me into a position where I could start moving again. My mum is a nurse and my Dad is a builder so they are perfect for this type of thing, also they are my parents so I am not as shy about asking for help.
Plus, I am in pain, I want my mummy and daddy!
Your local shopping centre/supermarket may well have those shopmobility electric wheelchairs you could borrow. I can't see why you couldn't go out under the circumstances you describe (i.e. wheelchair with parents on hand)
All the best for the birth x
YANBU but you may be a little unwise.
Rest means rest, not getting in and out of cars, jolting along roads and bouncing around in a wheelchair. You can do serious and lasting damage to your pelvis.
Personally I would be asking my mum and dad to come and be with me at home and/or asking the ILs to stay over too to help you with dd. Get people running about for you at home. Get on the computer and order last bits n bobs online and then wait for all the lovely parcels to roll in. Get everyone organised to support you for the first few weeks with new baby too.
Also bear in mind that spd doesn't magically disappear once you've delivered it can take weeks/months for your pelvis to heal fully, although of course you'll feel much better.
pheebe I hadn't thought it might make it worse...I'm just sick of being in this house already, and knowing I will be stuck here after the birth as well is making it worse. I'm just sat here basically feeling sorry for myself.
So, should I try and get out or not? I want to do something with DD as well, as soon she will have to share me, but if we are stuck in the house she tends to get cabin fever and start playing up.
I have had a good think about it, and I think the floor is smooth inside the supermarket, so I won't be jolting about. I will walk when outside on uneven ground. They have a people carrier and a turntable seat as they look after my disabled grandad, so the car shouldn't be a problem.
20 minutes till they arrive and I am so excited!
I hope you enjoy it. Nothing worse than being housebound whether you are pregnant or not.
Good luck on Monday.
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