not to buy my 3-yr-old high heels?

[MaMight]

Dd's sole mission in life is to own a pair of high heels. She is three and a half.

Obviously I have said no.

She is being more persistant about this than anything ever before in her little life.

I am still saying no.

Her best friend at nursery is allowed to wear high heels most days.

Still no.

Dd wondered if she could have some of those dressing up ones, just for playing pretend.

I said no because I think life will then be a constant battle not to let her wear them daily and she will forever try and wear them out of the house.

I have explained why she can't have some (because the bones in her feet are soft and high heels will hurt them and I'm her mummy and it is my job to care about the precious bones in her feet, so no. And no, I don't know anything about Lucy at nursery's soft bones or what her mummy thinks, my only concern is with your feet dd )

Some people have said a pair of dressing up heels wouldn't hurt.

She wants them more than anything else in the world.

I still think no!

AIBU?

[IdrisTheDragon]

Personally I think a pair of dressing up shoes would be all right. And that a three year old shouldn't be wearing ordinary shoes with heels.

It is however, your DD and so what you say is what is right for you

[shockers]

Maybe you could get the dressing up ones ( known as 'clacky shoes in my house!) on the understanding that if any fuss is made about wearing them out of the house, they will vanish without trace.

[nattiecake]

could she wear a pair of mummys old heels for pretend? that she obviously couldnt wear out though, as they'd be too big for her...??

[IdrisTheDragon]

Dressing up ones are "clippy cloppy" ones here

[GunpowderTreasonAndDragons]

Get her some dressing up shoes.

[GunpowderTreasonAndDragons]

Ours were clippetty cloppetty shoes

[dilemma456]

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[MaggieMonday]

yes, clippy cloppy slippers that come with a princess outfit.

But as for 'real' shoes, obviously not. However, I've heard of their existence, but never seen a pair for sale!

[shockers]

Or all the right ones!

[MrsChemist]

Which would be more irritating? Having her bug you constantly about getting the dress up shoes, or bugging you constantly about wearing the dress up shoes.

[Ivykaty44]

please please - keep a chripodist in a job and get your dd a pair of silly shoes....

By the way it will set you back around £5 per visit for her feet - these shoes are very productive for the chiropodist bank account

[TrillianAstra]

Please explain (or preferably post a picture of) the "high heels" that 3 year old Lucy wears every day?

[purepurple]

Children just copy what they see. 'Clip clop' shoes are very desirable. Even more so when mummy keeps saying no. Just buy her a pair of dress up ones and the novelty will wear off.

[DaftApeth]

I think if you do relent and get her some dressing up ''clicky shoes'', she will actually lose interest in them more quickly. Especially when she realises that they are quit difficult to walk in.

Dd(4) desperately wanted flip flops in the summer. I eventually bought her some and banned her from wearing them outside the front door in case he tripped over them. She soon lost interest.

You could always get them for her from Father Christmas then it won't seem as though you condone them

[GunpowderTreasonAndDragons]

Suri Cruise wears heels. She's 3.

[piscesmoon]

Stick to what you believe-it will be the first of many such battles!

[BibiBOO]

DD1 had the same desire when she was about 3 and a half (5 now) for a pair of "heel-up" shoes as she called them. I stuck to my guns, explained they were bad for her feet and just rode it out. She still asks occasionally but it's not a daily issue now.
If you really don't want her to, then don't. Your dd, your decision.

[alexpolismum]

Don't do it!

Ivykaty might have a good reason to wish to support chiropodists, but believe me it's no joke growing up with problems in your feet.

I spent years with painful feet and could never find any shoes that fitted because of my bunions and it was truly horrible. Don't do this to your dd.

I had to wait until I was in my 20s and have my feet operated on (chiropodists advised that I would have to wait for the bones to finish growing), and now I have the scars to consider when buying shoes. Do you really want your dd to spend her life with painful feet? Stick to your guns and leave those shoes in the shop.

[prettyfly1]

no. yanbu. little princesses should have princess feet - not corns, callouses and broken ankles when they slip off their clippy heels - there is plenty of time in her future for dressing up and play - stick to your guns.

[Ivykaty44]

Seriously

If you want feet problems the top tips are:

Get your dc to wear shoes that are to small

Get your dc to wear shoes with high heels - not only will this damage their feet/toes it will creat knee and back problems aswell

Get your dbabies to waer babygrows that are to small and dont cut the feet toes out

Your dc have very pliable bones in their feet and they can easily be moulded inot awful positions and made to stay there, traction in reverse its called.....

It will stay with them for life, cost a fortune to try to correct and make chiropracters and chiropodist thousands.

[alexpolismum]

I second Ivykaty's post. As I have already stated, I had those problems. It really is no joke. I had an operation to correct the shape of my feet, but I still have back problems.

When I was growing up I used to resent my mother for having allowed my feet to get into that state, it wasn't until I was mature enough to understand that she truly had been ignorant of the dangers that I was able to stop blaming her.

Your dd might be happy in the short term with high heels, but it's not worth the long term resentment, pain and anger.

[prettyfly1]

oh and btw - you could give in one this - and set yourself up for fifteen years of arguments over high heels that you dont win.