Its a bit long so apologies in advance but I dont know what else to do really. My dp and I have been together for almost nine years we have two ds' 4.9 months and 2.4 months.
Neither of the children were planned though I have always been honest about my contraception so I dont feel like Ive been dishonest in any way. But I feel our relationship has deteriorated A LOT since having children.
It is my honest opinion that he is jealous of the boys and the attention that I give them. Both pregnancies he demanded an abortion. I said no. The first time he tried so hard to get me to do it. He talked a lot about how 'working class people stay working class' (I come from a single parent bkground and I lived on a council estate until I left home) When I asked whether he considered himself to be w. class his response was 'With my bank account I dont think its fair to say that I am'. He would also try to physically intimidate me. Hes a lot bigger than I am. My mum encouraged me to stay and try to make a go of it. And I have. Im trying sooo hard.
But it is so bizarre. Considering he didnt want either of them he wants to control everything.. He undermines my authority with the children in front of them and other people. I feel so humiliated. If we argue he tells me to 'shut the fuck up' whether the kids are there or not. Then he points out that they dont listen to me!!!!
I had severe pnd with ds2. I wanted to kill myself, but we didnt talk at all. For days on end. During this time I found facebook messages with him and another woman. Flirty. When I approached him, again its my fault. Dont know what to do and this op is already too long.
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teabreakgirl · 07/11/2009 16:40
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