To be annoyed that my ''friend'' called me a ....

[poshsinglemum]

Spinster?

I think it's a sexist term anyway. It has connotations of crazy cat ladies. I am certainly not that. I prefer the term bachelorette.

Also, as I have a child I cannot technically be called a spinster.

Also, as she is supposed to be a mte shouldn't she use less derogatory terms to describe my status.

She is single AND childless.

She is always making barbe dcomments which is why I am so annoyed about this. if it was just an isolated incident I'd probably laugh it off.

[Aranea]

Presumably she would apply the term to herself too though, if she is single and childless. I don't think it's an insult - doesn't it just mean an unmarried woman?

YABU - it might be different coming from a smug married.

[poshsinglemum]

I just think that it is sexist and that she could refer to us as bachelorettes which means still means single woman but with more fun connotations.

She probably dosn't like being single. I enjoy it.

[TrillianAstra]

when my friend got married the official churhc words were "spinster of this parish"

[LyraSilvertongue]

I can see why you were upset. The word conjured up images of elderly virgins who own lots of cats/Anne Widdecombe.
YANBU.

[poshsinglemum]

Anne Widicombe.

I am only 31 fgs and we are no longer living in Jane Austin's time. If it were up to me the term would be banned.

Also its so unfair how bachelor has fun, postitive connotations hence my preference for the term bachelorette.

Or how about even the term
''woman'' which dosn't make an issue of marital status?

[LyraSilvertongue]

I don't like bachelorette either but it's way better than spinster.

[BLEEPyouYOUbleepingBLEEP]

Oh I dunno, bachelorette is just as bad, if not worse, than spinster. It's on par with ladette. Barf

[poshsinglemum]

I meant to say Anne Widicome lol.

I am not with it at all tonight!

Now I'm just going off to feed my army of cats.

[BLEEPyouYOUbleepingBLEEP]

x posted with yer there lyra

[poshsinglemum]

But at least ladettes are up for it and have fun.

Spinster dosn't sound very sexual.

Mabe theres a certain dignity in being a spinster...

TBH I am more of a nun nowadays!

[Hulababy]

Don't like spinster, but IMO bachelorette sounds even worse - and made up. What is wrong with just "single" or "unmarried"?

[poshsinglemum]

I know. Exactly but some people must give labels out. I just didn't like she called me that - it's like she had to make an issue of it.

Another mum also implied I was a spinster. She married very late in life and I think she was relieved.

It's also this notion of being left ''on the shelf''. What tosh. One of my best mates just got married to a man she met on the internet and she is 60! Anything is possible at any age nowadays.

[BitOfFun]

Are you baring your breasts for cable tv during the American Spring Break much? Because then you could call yourself a bachelorette...

[LyraSilvertongue]

So would i be considered a spinster as I have never married, although I do have a partner and two children? I guess when the term was common you didn't have people living together as they do today.

[Aranea]

No Lyra, I think you'd be a Fallen Woman...

[BLEEPyouYOUbleepingBLEEP]

Perhaps it's not whether spinster/bachelorette should be used, but why is your friend calling you that?? It's a pretty weird thing for anyone to say, apart from if they were just mucking about and joshing with you? and it doesn't sound like you have that kind of friendship with her.