Advanced search suspect that all the peopel refusing to see parents at xmas are hte ones

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AlaskaNebraska Fri 30-Oct-09 20:27:02

who have kittens when parents dont want to see school plays, 1st birthdays, horrendous 8ths birthdays ?

or not
you cant have it both ways

AlaskaNebraska Fri 30-Oct-09 20:28:18

<looks around>

fishie Fri 30-Oct-09 20:32:15

it makes me remember that thread about mothers of boys thinking twice before slagging their mils for wanting to be with their own sons.

dh doesn't really like xmas with my family, but his mum is dead so no alternative. there is no way i'd want to be just us, how dismal. beside i will have to host it eventually, may as well enjoy someone else's hospitality while i can.

PlantASeedWatchItGrow Fri 30-Oct-09 20:34:41


Lilyloooohhhh Fri 30-Oct-09 20:35:04

TBH we usually spend xmas trying to see everyone.
I just accept that's the way it is with kids and all.
I get to spend time with me , dp and kids any time of the year ..

cory Fri 30-Oct-09 20:44:40

I wouldn't know which Mumsnetters are which in this respect.

But I have to say it sounds a fair deal: You don't have to do Christmas round our way, and I don't have to sit through another nightmare evening of school children squeaking out Twinkle Twinkle on their recorders.

Even my mother might be tempted by that one wink

StewieGriffinsMom Fri 30-Oct-09 20:45:30

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deaddei Fri 30-Oct-09 20:53:27

I'm with Stewie.
I would love to have a house brimming with extended family who all get on- but life's not like that for us.
DH has no relationship with his parents, I don't like them, my parents dead.
Oh the Good Housekkeeping December issue looks idyllic, but it isn't going to happen in my house.
We enjoy ourselves in our own way.....

Jux Fri 30-Oct-09 20:55:32

I am delighted that I don't have to spend Xmas with ILs. If they want to come to birthdays and plays and things, they're welcome to do so, but they don't.

scottishmummy Fri 30-Oct-09 21:00:45

i think you are making sweeping generalisations.

Ronaldinhio Fri 30-Oct-09 21:03:35

why do you have to bring innocent kittens into it? eh?

MillyR Fri 30-Oct-09 21:07:23

I don't know if what you are saying is true or not. it would seem more likely that people who didn't get on with their parents would try to avoid them wherever possible, including Christmas and school plays and birthdays.

alwayslookingforanswers Fri 30-Oct-09 21:12:23

I don't want to see my parents at Christmas - I wouldn't want them at school plays etc either.

Unfortunately for me I'll have to put with them near DS2's 6th birthday as they'd already made arrangements to come down (for something else - not the birthday - which has since been postponed), still as DH pointed out if I let them come at that time then hopefully I'll have a relaxed and stress free Christmas where the're not involved.

LetThereBeRock Fri 30-Oct-09 21:13:01

YABU.How do you know what their circumstances are?
One won't automatically get along with one's family just because they are family.

And because someone has given birth or fathered a child it doesn't automatically mean that they'll be pleasant people who you'd want to be around. They could be vile.

Scaredycat3000 Fri 30-Oct-09 21:14:10


AlaskaNebraska Fri 30-Oct-09 21:14:25

then its not about you is it
its about people who dont want them at XMas for whatever reason " its inconvenient" but then expect unbridled interest hte rest of the eyar

Lonicera Fri 30-Oct-09 21:15:30

Even my dh didn't come to my 8 yr old's birthday treat grin

scottishmummy Fri 30-Oct-09 21:15:52

you are doing much back peddling to no avail.still a honking op

LetThereBeRock Fri 30-Oct-09 21:15:52

And how do you know that they expect 'unbridled interest' in their children? What makes you think that you can speak for everyone?

AlaskaNebraska Fri 30-Oct-09 21:16:39

what is it with you
its a MN htread not an academic study
i am WONDEING if that is the case.
i am not going aorund rining every one before i start hte thread to find some kind of hypothesis

Lonicera Fri 30-Oct-09 21:16:55

Actually I amwrong, it was the 7th birthday, he was there for the 8th

AlaskaNebraska Fri 30-Oct-09 21:17:02

"speak for eveeryone"


scottishmummy Fri 30-Oct-09 21:18:01

oooh arent you touchy!

Lonicera Fri 30-Oct-09 21:18:40

Oooh lots of heated posts I'm too slow

AitchTwoToTangOh Fri 30-Oct-09 21:19:29

"dh doesn't really like xmas with my family, but his mum is dead so no alternative. " terrible that this made me snoooooooort with laughter, fishie.

don't see what's so wrong with the OP, btw. does it refer to another thread or something?

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