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I did show her what I wanted doing before I left and actually said 'look I dont expect a palace, just do your best'
I get home yesterday after asking dd to clean, to find house tidy-ish, but deffo not clean.
I didnt go round looking for things as I believed her when she said she'd been busy. But through the course of the evening I notice:
that the tv is on disney channel (obviously I didnt leave it on that and had only been gone 2 hours)
that the sink is dirty, I ask dd and she says, 'well I did clean it'
That the toilet still has a variety of 'things' on it, dd says 'oh I didnt know I had to clean the seat'
thats the hall hasnt been hoovered, dd says 'oh I didnt know I had to hoover the hall'
Also note that Dyson hoover isnt even a quarter full and almost empty can of pledge I left her along with new full one, is still, yep almost empty!
So I leave it, giving her the benfit of the doubt and she as planned is going to town today with friend to buy birthday pressie for tonights party, and buying halloween outfit for party on saturday. For this she requires £30 apparently, which I got out the bank for her last night.
Whilst I am getting ready this morning sitting on my bedrrom floor, so am eye level with my drawer tops, and they are thick with dust.
So I ask her to come in and say 'look i want the truth, did you clean yesterday'? dd says 'well yeah I did' so I ask again if she did her best or some half arsed attempt then sat down to watch disney 'yeah I suppose so' Then she says 'look I'll do it properly friday if I can still go to the parties'
At which point I either killed her or cried my eyes out ...... obviously was the latter, I cried for ages saying that I never ask her to help me normally, its only because I am so tired and big, and that she just wants wants wants and gives nothing in return.
I have told her she cannot go to Halloween party on saturday, but she has still gone to town and party tonight as too late to cancel.
Even after all this she still said 'oh so what am I supposed to tell so and so about party on saturday'?
Am I being hormonal and ott - I am so upset and hurt about all this. I try to make a deal yesterday and it gets thrown back at me and I feel like she's learnt nothing, shes gone to town with my last £15 for the week.
I honestly dont know if Im being stupid or not, my bloody hormones are all over the place
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mosschops30 · 29/10/2009 14:37
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