I recently offered to get involved in an event that involves me giving my time voluntarily. I have done similar in the past on the same basis and stopped because I was always being asked to do more and I hate saying no.
I felt (and I appreciate it may be been me) that there were a few comments along the lines of 'oh do you work now' ie. why can't you give more time. This time, when I explained that I had to stand back a bit and catch up with other things in my life, I felt one of the individuals was a bit annoyed (despite the fact I had offered a set number of hours a week and had done way in excess of that). They went on to refer to something they had to do when their children were my age which would have meant they had less free time than me, and referred to someone else who does so much for the organisation (who also works part tiem).
It makes me really cross. I feel I have to justify how I spend my time as a SAHM. The people who do work so much for this group must barely see their children and there's no way I intend to put my self in the same position. I have other commitments they are unaware of and having literally halved our income for me to stay at home while the children are small, I don't want not only have jeapordised my career by doing so (which I have) but also not get to see my children as much as I want either.
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to think I shouldn't have to justify how I spend my time as a SAHM
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Conundrumish · 29/10/2009 11:25
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