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To not want my toddlers to 'go out' with nursery teachers in holidays?

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nicolamumof3 Wed 28-Oct-09 18:29:17

My DS2 age 3.10yr and DS3 age 2.3yr attend the same local preschool we are quite friendly with one of the 'teachers' there who even provided the childcare at our wedding this year.

However she asked me at the end of term if she could take the boys to a soft play centre in our town with her daughter who is a nanny. I said 'yes' as she caught me on the hop, but now i feel really worried, i don't really know this lady, i don't know her address or anything really, i have decided they can take the boys but i want to come too. AIBU?

Fabster Wed 28-Oct-09 18:31:52

But you know her so what is the problem?

Her daughter might want to be spending time with children for nanny experience.

purpleturtle Wed 28-Oct-09 18:32:43

Perhaps she just needs the 'excuse' of some children to take along to check out the play place? I don't think you should panic. By all means, go with them if you need to - but they most probably do only have good intentions (like giving you a little break).

nicolamumof3 Wed 28-Oct-09 18:34:32

i know, i just had a really irrational dream about it, i was fine about it until then, now im thinking all sorts and DH seems to agree with me which is making me worse.

Fabster Wed 28-Oct-09 18:36:28

Sometimes you have to let go but not always if it really doesn't feel right.

MarianneM Wed 28-Oct-09 20:50:00

I wouldn't send your kids alone with her. If you feel like you can't say no, go yourself. There probably isn't anything sinister behind it, but you never know, and it's not something you want to risk. I think it an odd request. If she wants to do it to allow her daughter to gain experience, why didn't she explain that?

choosyfloosy Wed 28-Oct-09 20:56:45

I think go with them - I know exactly what you mean - if your children were even 18 months older you probably wouldn't think twice, except they probably wouldn't be at nursery then! It's a good chance to get to know them better.

lalin Wed 28-Oct-09 21:24:53

Don't ever allow your children go anywhere with anyone, regardless of their profession, , if you feel uncomfortable in any way.
You don't need to justify your decision to anyone either. Always trust your instinct 100%. Don't concern yourself with hurting anyones feelings. Your duty is only to protect your DC. A simple thanks but we are busy that day should do.
You don't know her, though she may work at the nursery.

nicolamumof3 Wed 28-Oct-09 21:41:56

well i've said yes now blush i don't have her no. to call her i do feel like just not being here when they call at 10.30...is that awful, tbh i'd feel uncomfortable going altogether as i don't really know them. I do keep thinking im being silly but they are my children and imo its not worth a seconds risk is it? I know nothing is likely to happen but what if it did?

right i think i know what to do now!! grin

lalin Fri 30-Oct-09 19:02:25

What did you do???

nicolamumof3 Fri 30-Oct-09 19:45:14

i was a real chicken i went out when they called round, and said i had forgotten Ds had a docs apt!! blush

messalina Fri 30-Oct-09 20:05:31

If you feel uncomfortable about it, either pull out and make up some excuse or else go along yourself. I'm sure it's perfectly innocent but it does seem a little strange and the fact that you are unclear about her reasons makes it stranger. Trust your instincts.

lalin Fri 30-Oct-09 20:41:52

You did the right thing.. Without being paranoid about people, always trust your gut instinct with anything to do with your children.smile Have a nice weekend.

nicolamumof3 Fri 30-Oct-09 20:45:55

Thank you, i am v.relieved i don't feel guilty they are my kids and a moments risk for sake of saving face or embarrasment not worth it.

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