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To be afraid of driving on the motorway?

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CrapDriver Sun 25-Oct-09 20:01:05

I know this is really daft so please be gentle with me but;

I have promised to take DS to a outdoor adventure thing next week and will have to drive a little way down the A38 to get there.

I have been driving for a year but I'm a really nervous driver and have never driven on a motorway before.

Am I being stupid, I'm really scared. What if I miss my exit?

What if my car dies?

Please help me.

RealityBites Sun 25-Oct-09 20:03:34

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CrapDriver Sun 25-Oct-09 20:06:17


I'm the sort of driver who won't leave at all unless I know where I'm going to park at the other end!

My car dying is more likely than most, he's rather old....

famishedass Sun 25-Oct-09 20:08:09

What about going out for a few motorway driving lessons with a driving school?

memorylapse Sun 25-Oct-09 20:08:34

I actually prefer motorway wont miss your exit as they are clearly signedsmile..but if you can get off at the next one

CrapDriver Sun 25-Oct-09 20:09:41

Well I thought about doing my pass plus but I've got to take DS on tuesday so no time.

bebesequin Sun 25-Oct-09 20:10:34

Could you do a practice run without DS and take a friend ? just to help you feel more confident-check car over oil etc before you go and charge up your mobile.

PoisonToadstool Sun 25-Oct-09 20:10:49

IT's really not that bad once you've done it a few times, is there someone experienced who can sit in the passenger seat and give a bit of advice for a trial run?

I passed last summer and my mum took me up and down between two junctions of the M4 one afternoon, made me feel a lot better and realised it's fine really, after a while it's better than normal driving, and the convenience is so worthwhile.

My 20 year old tin can amazed me by doing 85 recently blush I don't think it had gone over 50 before I bought it!

CaptainUnderpants Sun 25-Oct-09 20:11:11

Why dont you get hold of your old driving instructor and pay for another lesson but get taken on the motorway. This way you will not be alone and have someone with you who should know what they are doing.

I remeber when I passed my driving test my (1984 !) on the way back from test centre driving instructor took me on the motorway .

CaptainUnderpants Sun 25-Oct-09 20:12:08

just saw that you have to go on Tuesday , sorry .

MitchyInge Sun 25-Oct-09 20:12:12

ahh, you will love getting some fresh air around your wheels - it is one of life's great pleasures! but I do live in a county that has no motorways at all hmm

CrapDriver Sun 25-Oct-09 20:12:13

I have had all levels checked and tyres last week coincedently so not worried bout that. I'm out all day tomorrow. No time. Damn I wish I was more organised!

CrapDriver Sun 25-Oct-09 20:15:00

My car is a rusty, 14 year old ford escort btw. He does not like going into forth gear or getting wet. He is a grumpy old man.

InMyLittleHead Sun 25-Oct-09 20:15:44

Just stay in the inside lane if it's overtaking that bothers you. That way it will be pretty difficult for you to miss your exit. Soon you will get up confidence and be OK with overtaking.

SmallSCREAMCap Sun 25-Oct-09 20:16:26

You'll be great. Once you know you can do it, it is less physically difficult than town driving.

Remember that it is perfectly acceptable to stick to 60mph if you'd prefer and not overtake anyone.

I bet after 10 minutes you'll be ready to have a go, though!

SmallSCREAMCap Sun 25-Oct-09 20:16:50

caveat - perfectly acceptable in the slow lane!

MitchyInge Sun 25-Oct-09 20:20:30

the doors used to fly open on my old land rover if I went over 45mph so I was v unpopular on the few occasions I found myself on a dual carriageway or motorway - but we survived as you will and it was fun!

CrapDriver Sun 25-Oct-09 20:21:57

hmmmmmm....ok, I'm starting to feel calmer.

Confuzzeled Sun 25-Oct-09 20:23:23

I totally understand, I've been driving for 5 years and I still hate it. I'm fine driving around the places I know but I fear for my life when I go over 30mph.

I guess it just takes practice and having the confidence to just go for it.

You passed your test and have had a year of driving under your belt, I'm sure you'll be grand.

Good Luck

artlesschaos Sun 25-Oct-09 20:25:54

No, YANBU. I am a very nervous driver (started using the car again after years in London), particularly with my toddlers in the car.
I am so bad that I get anxious, scared and actually get a lump in my throat looking at my kids before we set off.
I'm terrified we'll crash and I'll hurt them or worse.
Not very helpful I know...I have a problem.
I do think motorway driving (despite the high speeds) is the most straightforward, easy kind of driving.
When I was young, single and childless I loved driving on motorways, particularly late at night listening to music. I did my best "thinking and sorting" my head out then.
It's not quite the same with a 3 yr old screaming for her drink/juice/numbie/etc....

PoisonToadstool Sun 25-Oct-09 20:30:53

sorry, I missed the bit about it being on Tuesday <tired>

Yes, you can just stay in the slow lane if you want to, better that than get yourself worked up about overtaking.

Then the next time you go you might feel a bit braver, it's no different to town driving in that respect - god the first time I made the car move my mouth went dry and I began sweating and I thought I would cry - I was probably going no faster than 15 mph on an empty road! grin

Not sure how old your DS is but I will use anything to keep DS quiet on the motorway, chocolate is a winner of course, chocolate and feckin Ribena.

slimeoncrazydemon Sun 25-Oct-09 20:31:11

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kid Sun 25-Oct-09 20:33:22

I can understand completely. I passed my test in 1994 and it took me years to drive on the motorway. I literally would prefer to not go somewhere rather than have to drive on the motorway.

The best thing I ever did was to buy a satnav. It gave me a real boost as it took away the fear of getting lost.

I don't know about you, but my biggest fear about motorway driving was not being able to stop in time due to the high speed you have to drive at.
I have since drove on the motorway loads and loads of times and its not a problem, I promise you.

I do often get morons driving too close behind me, but I just move lanes and let the morons pass me. It really annoys me when they do that, hope they get a buzz out of terrifying me.

CrapDriver Sun 25-Oct-09 20:34:18

Yeah thanks. lol.

DS is always very good in the car, except when I am parking, the thing I am absolutley WORST at, of course. Suddenly he needs to ask all the questions in the world....

frasersmummy Sun 25-Oct-09 20:35:48

The worst part of m/way driving is getting on..

once you have joined the inside lane you will find its easer than town driving..

nobody just nipping across the road despite their being a crossing 20 yards up the road

no buses pulling out with no indication

no daft little mini roundabouts where nobody knows when to go

no cyclists to watch out for (I am not anti cyclists- its just they are harder to see)

no kids following balls or appearing froom ice cream vans

If you stick to the inside lane you cant miss your exit
Most of the uk m/way network is covered by cctv so if you do breakdown trust me the police will be with you before you can think what will I do now??

good luck

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