I recently put on a birthday party for my dd at a soft play centre. I thought it went very well, and they all seemed to enjoy it!
I was also pleased when two parents decided to stay as we don't all get to chat properly often. My mum stayed too so we all settled down with our coffees. Well, from the word go my mum made me feel nothing less than embarrassed!
She kept commenting on the noise and behaviour of the kids, (surely you'd expect noise in soft play?) She then mentioned my dd's best friend, (who didn't have a parent there luckily), and said she wishes my dd would find a different friend. Her friend can be boisterous, but she's a nice girl too, who I feel draws my dd out of herself.
She then got on to my ds, (there are a few problems with his development, he's coming up to 4 years old and myself and dh have done well to get him extra help at nursery). She kept on though, saying how worried she is and that I should push for more one-to-one help whereas I'm very grateful to the nursery for what they're already doing!
While the children were eating my mum didn't let up, "She didn't say thank you, look at the way he's eating that cake, what a mess!" Despite my efforts to resume conversation with the other mums, my mum then started about dd's eating. She does eat quite well, but she's fussy which I'm well aware of! From what my mum was saying though, I feel my friends got the impression she has a terrible diet, I do my best with her but my mum was negative, negative, negative!
Even when the party organiser told me she needed all the children upstairs for a game, mum was straight in there behind me, "Oh I'll get the children, I'm in charge now!", rolling her eyes at my friends as though I was incapable!
Was I being unreasonable to have words with her after the party? Apparently she's been in tears over the weekend saying I've been awful to her, and wishes she hadn't put so much effort into dd's presents as I'm obviously ungrateful, The presents were lovely btw and she was thanked, just a shame about the way she conducted herself on dd's special day!
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to be annoyed with my mum and to have told her? I feel she ruined my dd's birthday party for me!
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onthepier · 25/10/2009 17:49
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