to feel sad that my friends are all getting married before me im happy for them but jealous because we cant afford it yet we are saving to buy a house, im not workingwhich would help and im going to be a old bride by the time it comes to me, I feel like its never going to happen aibu.
Loveme, I got married for under £300. The registry office was £40 and my dress was from Monsoon. I just wanted to be married, perhaps you could do something similar and ask all you friends to join you for a meal/drink after (they can pay and no wedding gifts). We bought our rings in Thailand and so not too expensive either.
Well, if you just want to be married, I believe that can be arranged with minimal cost, even if you want to be married in church there is no rule that says you must have the full -big white dress-full choir-23 hour peal of bells-sit down meal for 150- with an extra 500 in the evening-plus a six week homeymoon in the maldives- type of wedding! I am sure you could get married at a very reasonable cost for licence, registrars offic/church/clothes etc. Flowers can usually be found at reasonable prices from market stalls, or ven in supermarkets. especially since the trend these days appears to be much less frormal than when I got married (350 years ago ), it would not be too hard to buy a bunch, trim them and then tie them yourself. Cake? Buy the plain white iced ones they sell in Tesco's or M&S and add a few decorations of your own, you can buy pre-made icing flowers etc in cake decorating shops. photos? Give your guests a disposable camera each and ask them to snap away. Afterwards, once developed, you can scan them into the computer and upload them to one of those sites that make your pictures into books for aroun £40. ( Used one myself this year and was very impressed with the quality). Food? depending on numbers, either as someone else said a meal out asking guests to pay their own way but no other presents, or get some party platters from one of the may supermarkets or cash and carry places that do them.
or just go and get married with your OH, children and a couple of witnesses and tell everyone afterwards. It is entirely up to you, but it can be done!