OK this might be a bit long but I want to get all the facts in.
I am training to be a teacher and I have a childminder who is fantastic and flexible (which is great as I dont need her when Im not in school- ). Only problem is that the childminder goes to college on a thurs eve, so the children have to be collected/dropped off early. We decided we would work it out on a week by week basis (every other week I have a free last period so its not a problem then, I can come home early), and between my parents, my husband, the next door neighbours etc, we would manage to find childcare for this hour period from 3-4pm every other thursday.
Anyway, SIL quits her job and offered to babysit for an hour every other thursday. Great. So she has done a couple of thursdays, and it was agreed that she would babysit this thursday. I was actually due to have parents evening at school tonight so she agreed she would stay until 5pm when I would be home.
HOwever, in the meantime, I found out I had all my pupils appointments finished by 3pm, so I thought I would make the opportunity of having a guaranteed child free hour whilst SIL babysat and make an appointment with the dr (long overdue but I find it impossible to go to the dr due to h working away alot and unpredictable hours). I know this is irrelevant but I really needed a dr appointment without the kids as the dr needed to check my coil.
At 3pm I got a phone call from the childminder today to say that SIL wasnt there. I was livid and went to pick the kids up myself and ended up having to take the kids to the dr with me- consequently the dr had a few stern words with me about not being able to do the examination she needed due to the kids being there.
I am so angry with SIL not being there, h rang her and finally got through to her and she said she had a flat tyre and had to pump it up thats why she was late. TBH I dont believe this- if it was a flat tyre, why couldnt she just come anyway (she lives a 5 min drive away). Or even text/call me to let me know she wouldnt be there for the kids.
H is being really pathetic and saying because she babysits for us for free then its ok, but, whilst I appreciate her babysitting for free, she needs to let us know if she isnt going to be able to do it.
Childminder was also late for college.
AIBU for being angry and thinking if you have an arrangement with someone then its common courtesy for them to let you know if they cant do it any more.
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johnthepong · 22/10/2009 17:53
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