Ok I think I know deep down (as others keep telling me) that this situation isn't fair... but what do you all honestly think?
My DSis and her DP are planning their wedding. My DSis assumed that my DFather would pay for it (I think he may have covered the drinks bill if she was lucky), and planned an expensive day. My DF then went through a hard time and my DMum, rather than stand up to my DSis, said that she'd have to take out a loan if my DF wasn't going to pay.
My DM wasn't forced into anything here it was her decision, but I think she said that hoping my Dsis would decline the offer seeing as the loan would be 5/6 of my DM's annual income, and my Dsis and her DP earn 4x that.
Anyway it was a lot of "if this happens..." blah blah blah and I kind of thought that my Dsis would ever take the money.
Then my Dmum unexpectedly inherited some money, and had just enough to pay her debts, pay some mortgage off which means she can afford to pay it all by the time she retires (she would have had to sell otherwise), pay for Dsis' wedding, give me a small amount, and then had to go back into her overdraft and buy food shopping with her credit card the following day.
Now I know I'm just as bad for taking a small amount from my Dmum, but we had many a teary conversation with me refusing and her saying as she was giving my Dsis X amount that she had to give me something.
Sorry for rambling there are lots of other things where my Dsis is inconsiderate. For example my Dmum's boiler broke and had to be replaced (had to use overdraft to pay for it), I think my Dsis should have given some money back but no the thought didn't even cross her mind. Also my DM is with that certain bank who plans to charge £1 a day for use of the overdraft and she is worried as she lives in hers.
I've hinted to my Dsis that perhaps our DM feels she has to pay even though she can't afford to, but my Dsis assures me that no my DM really wants to pay. I have also broached the subject with my DM who has not denied anything I have said (for my mother that is the equivalent of agreeing wholeheartedly).
Anyway here I am dreaming of a lovely wedding but never really considering it as I can't afford it and would never ask anybody else to pay for it. So part of it is jealousy as I'm not going to have this great day, but OTOH I'm slightly disgusted with my Dsis.
So, AIBU?
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Am I just jealous of my sister or is she taking the mick?
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fedupofthis · 22/10/2009 13:35
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