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To be a bit cross with my DD's nursery?

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Marioandluigi Wed 21-Oct-09 16:45:46

My DD goes to nursery once a week and we are very happy with it, she is 15 months.

However today I read on her day sheet 'XXXXX has had a lovely day playing with her boyfriend [boys name]

Now I am a bit hmm about it. I know its supposed to be a bit of harmless fun, and I am not going to make a compalint or anything as the girls are lovely, I just want to know that someone else understands, because my husband thinks its funny.

2shoescreepingthroughblood Wed 21-Oct-09 16:46:48

I harly think they are serious

Pinkjenny Wed 21-Oct-09 16:47:09

I would find it a bit hmm too. But not so much that I'd complain. My dh would think I was overreacting over this too.

PuppyMonkey Wed 21-Oct-09 16:47:44

I think it's funny too... sweet.

RainbowJelly Wed 21-Oct-09 16:50:36

maybe they just mean in it the literal sense - he is a friend that happens to be a boy???

girlafraid Wed 21-Oct-09 16:51:34

I wouldn't like it, I loathe it when people refer to boyfriends/girlfriends for children

The inappropriate sexualisation of children's friendships and also a lesson that men and women cannot be friends

I do have a tendency to be a bit strident though grin

ParisFrog Wed 21-Oct-09 16:53:17

It is a bit odd. It's not like they're 5 and running round the playground holding hands saying they're married etc.

Why can't they just be friends? Why add an extra dimension to it?

madhairgirl Wed 21-Oct-09 16:54:46

No I understand, sometimes people just seem so desperate to make everyone grow up so quickly and nothing is allowed to be childlike any more. Why does it matter whether she was playing with a boy or a girl it should just be good that she is socializing well.

hanaboo Wed 21-Oct-09 17:02:50

yanbu does this mean that they are saying this to the children too? i would be mad if anyone started the boyfriend thing with my dd(4)
its like when people call a child or baby sexy! i say 'NO, shes 4, not sexy!'

MatNanPlus Wed 21-Oct-09 17:04:38

Sounds like the writer is a little young/immature.

flaminhell Wed 21-Oct-09 17:14:27

No I would not like it, I would find it odd.

nellynaemates Wed 21-Oct-09 17:14:59

I've never had it in his report but we all refer jokingly to DS and a girl at his nursery as boyfriend and girlfriend, not without good reason! They cuddle and kiss and hold hands and love being with each other, of course it's not really "boyfriend and girlfriend" but they're close and everyone knows what we mean. It's hardly sexualising them! hmm

littlestarschildminding Wed 21-Oct-09 17:15:06

I put in one of my mindees home books the other day that "X had been having great fun playing with her new boyfriend ( she kept kissing him all day and it was so sweet)" LMAO I don't see anything wrong with putting this and her parents thought it was really sweet.

IMHO I think you are over reacting!

littlestarschildminding Wed 21-Oct-09 17:16:15

Ohh and MatNanPlus...Im certainly not young (or immature I hope).. grin

clam Wed 21-Oct-09 17:27:07

I wouldn't like it, but wouldn't go so far as to comment on it back to them.

pigletmania Wed 21-Oct-09 19:40:02

Gosh lighten up at a bit just a bit of a joke nothing more. I sometimes used to say to my dd when she was about that age (15months), is your boyfriend coming round today, meaning my friends 16 month old son at the time. Or when she was going to a friends party, oh your seeing your boyfriend today grin. My dd is now 2.8 btw

scottishmummy Wed 21-Oct-09 19:45:19

light hearted joke.not a dig or comment upon her future status

ProfYaffle Wed 21-Oct-09 19:45:48

I had similar when dd1 was about 3 at nursery, the staff wrote she was "playing with her boyfriend X" and drew a few love hearts in her diary. I thought it was quite amusing though, tbh, I was so relieved she finally found a friend I didn't really think too deeply about it.

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied Wed 21-Oct-09 19:48:29

YABU, chill. The girls are just being friendly and jokey.

Maleeka Wed 21-Oct-09 19:50:02

Aww i'd think it was sweet smile IMO you'd have to be a little uptight to look for anything sinister in that report!

lockets Wed 21-Oct-09 19:54:04

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piscesmoon Wed 21-Oct-09 20:00:18

I think you should take it in the spirit it is obviously meant.

Littlefish Wed 21-Oct-09 20:01:57

I don't like these references to boyfriends/girlfriends for very young children either.

piscesmoon Wed 21-Oct-09 20:03:28

I can't say that I like them but it isn't something to be taken seriously-save getting upset for things that really matter.

ChunkyMonkeysMum Wed 21-Oct-09 20:05:27

I think it's really sweet. You are being a bit unreasonable.

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