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am I ur for having a secret store card that my dp does not know about aibu

(31 Posts)
cava Tue 20-Oct-09 19:55:15

I keep it for emergencies like xmas, homeware etc is this bad its my only guilty pleasure.grin

dilbertina Tue 20-Oct-09 19:56:58

Why is it secret?

RealityBites Tue 20-Oct-09 19:58:04

Message withdrawn

bernadetteoflourdes Tue 20-Oct-09 19:59:18

If you do keep it for EMERGENCIES then fine, but why secret have you had problems with cards before? If so, you are not alone half the country hastoo!

flowerybeanbag Tue 20-Oct-09 19:59:30

If it's literally for emergencies why is it a secret anyway?

alwayslookingforanswers Tue 20-Oct-09 20:00:29

how are Christmas and homeware emergencies???

ScaryFucker Tue 20-Oct-09 20:01:33


dilbertina Tue 20-Oct-09 20:01:43

and why is "homeware" an emergency?! I suspect you prob. ABU...and you know it!

wideratthehips Tue 20-Oct-09 20:02:58

if you can pay it off each month, and it safely allows you to get something you need right at that moment then why not.

personally i don't have a cc (even when i was working) and my husband has a visa for emergencys when we are abroad (we don't know the pin so could be a bit stuffed grin )

i get the wibbles about owing money and the only debt we have is our mortgage

PeedOffWithNits Tue 20-Oct-09 20:07:17

xmas is an emergency ?? sudden and unexpected??

what, like they suddenly throw it at us at all sorts of random times of the year with only 3 days notice? LOL

YABU if you have joint finances, everything should be up front

how would you feel if DH had a card/secret stash of cash YOU knew nothing about?

mummyofprincesses Tue 20-Oct-09 20:08:06

Lol at Christmas and homewares being emergencies. Emergencies are things like broken boilers and new car tyres, not things you know are coming and can plan for.

I think yabu and very wrong keeping this kind of secret from your dp. How would you feel if he did the same?

mummyofprincesses Tue 20-Oct-09 20:08:37

Peedoff- great minds post alike lol

bernadetteoflourdes Tue 20-Oct-09 20:09:41

I am referring you to the AIBU thread To want to scream which has just been posted. Are you the other half of this couple? If not there may be something of relevance in the thread for you!

PumpkinsCantDanceTheTango Tue 20-Oct-09 20:09:42

How is Christmas an emergency? IMO an emergency is heating breaking down or the bathroom flooding and needing to pay money out to get these things fixed. Just so you know this year Christmas is on the 25th of December - hope that helps. wink

roneef Tue 20-Oct-09 20:10:00

YABU - Secrets are very damaging. How would you feel if things were hidden from you?

roneef Tue 20-Oct-09 20:10:01

YABU - Secrets are very damaging. How would you feel if things were hidden from you?

GooberIsLockedInTheBootOfMyCar Tue 20-Oct-09 20:10:05


It is a trust issue.

roneef Tue 20-Oct-09 20:10:18

Sorry X

PeedOffWithNits Tue 20-Oct-09 20:10:35


alwayslookingforanswers Tue 20-Oct-09 20:10:39

<<<<<<,points out her 20:00:29 post to those who think they were first to post that>>>>> wink

scottishmummy Tue 20-Oct-09 20:11:25

if your money pays for card YANBU.if joint money pays YABU

and store cards are fro the hard of thinking who are bad with money ,extortionate APR

PeedOffWithNits Tue 20-Oct-09 20:11:40

crikey, fast posting everyone! my grin was at mummyofprincesses

PeedOffWithNits Tue 20-Oct-09 20:13:06

alwayslookingforanswers - i know you got there first, was just sharing your derision

alwayslookingforanswers Tue 20-Oct-09 20:14:06

oh ok then grin

and agree - store cards/accounts notoriously high apr - never mind 30%, try 39.9% for Very!

cava Tue 20-Oct-09 20:39:06

Well thank you for your honest answers im a stay at home mum and when I say emergencies I mean for presents for my kids that I can pay back monthly out of our money i want to contribute something , I dont normally keep secrets but I know im in the wrong I just wanted advice and no I have never been in debt Im normally very good. untill this thats why i wanted your advice I feel I have been told off by my parents so of to get the scissors to cut it up.blush

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