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to actually consider a psychic to sort out my daughter's sudden fear of her room..

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brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 14:28:30

OK, I know I'm being a prat, but I'm at my wits end with this situation. Over the past 4 days DD refuses to sleep in her bedroom. She lies there with scared, wide eyes and tells me the windows have been rattling. It freaked me out too...
She'll happily play with her toys in there but as soon as she has to get into bed to lie down, she starts screaming.
She's 2.5 yrs old, with an extremely vivid imagination, but she normally loves her sleep and her bed.
Gaahhhh....I'm knackered.............

LaurieScaryCake Mon 19-Oct-09 14:31:59

It's a daft idea, sorry. She is picking up on the feeling that you are scared. Sleep with her for a couple of nights, gradually leave in the middle of the night, reduce to leaving after she falls asleep, leave a night light on.

She will get over it when you do smile

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 14:37:09

Oh I know Laurie, I just don't understand it. She's obsessed with the rattling windows. I've never seen her like this before - real fear. I've tried everything - tonight I drew pictures of all of her friends and stuck them on the curtains (hmm - maybe that made things worse).
Plus her thomas the tank engine ride on occasionally goes off in the middle of the night without anyone touching it.
I'm a paranoid wreck...

Kathyis12feethighandbites Mon 19-Oct-09 14:42:16

I don't think you need to understand 2.5 year old fears, they don't generally make sense to us.
My dd used to get totally freaked out by a doorstop in the shape of a cat at my parents' house.
And some toys do go off by themselves - we had a very annoying musical ball that did that from time to time.

Definitely agree with Laurie.

esselle Mon 19-Oct-09 14:42:35

Can you not jam something in the window frame to stop it from rattling?

Take the Thomas toy out of her room over night too maybe.

My DD went through a phase of being scared to go to bed at night so we created monster spray (adapt as you like)- some air freshener spray. We told DD it keeps the monsters away and she was safe and sound. A quick squirt in the room while saying good night sorted the problem out very quickly!

I hope this helps!

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 19-Oct-09 14:45:16

Talk to your DD about her fear. Don't dismiss it, but come up with solutions; if she's afraid of monsters, tell her that [a favourite soft toy] scares monsters away, so she only has to cuddle it tight/make it go Grrr at the windows. Do a routine monster check at bedtime; under the bed, in the cupboard etc, showing her there are none. Come up with a ritual/short series of words you/she can say to feel safe; enable her to take control.

And take the batteries out of Thomas! grin

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 14:49:08

"Famous" American psychic John Edward is in town in the next few weeks, was thinking of calling on his services wink
No, in all seriousness I see what you mean, she's probably picking up on me panicking (more about her suddenly dropping her midday sleep to be honest). I'll try and relax and sleep by her for the next few days.

hanaboo Mon 19-Oct-09 14:50:06

hmm, i'm just not sure about this monster business, i tell dd that there's no such thing. surely the thought of monsters at the window is scary even if a certain toy or spray is keeping them at bay? doesn't it reinforce the belief that rattling windows are something to be scared of?

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 14:53:07

Thomas is downstairs, so it was only me that was getting freaked out by it!
The reason I stuck the faces of her friends on the windows was to make them "happy windows", which she agreed they were - plus I rearranged her room to make it extra specially lovely today, but still the same reaction...
I suppose its all about patience.

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 14:57:04

We don't mention monsters at all. Monsters have already caused enough problems here.

Singstar Mon 19-Oct-09 15:04:51

Ok I'm going to take a deep breath and go against current opinion and say maybe there might be 'something else' frightening her. When we moved into our house my ds slept in the back bedroom and he used to spend alot of time at night when we put him to bed talking to people who he said would come and visit him at night. He told us their names and described them in lots of details (age, clothes they wore etc).

It didn't seem to bother him but it would take him to ages to go to sleep because of the chatting and it did freak me and dh out a bit. Especially as its an old house and other strange and unexplained things have happened in the time we've lived here.

Eventually out of sheer desperation I did speak briefly to a medium (friend of friend) and she said that children are very suseptable (sp!!) to visits as they don't have the social conditioning as yet to dismiss as most adults do and that what we needed to was to go into ds's room and politely ask whoever it was 'visiting' to stop as ds needed his sleep. We did this (feeling utterly stupid as we did it and whilst ds was at nursery just to test the theory) and from that night on he stopped chatting at night to his 'friends'.

Freaky I know and I'm completely expecting many of you to shout 'weirdo' at me but all I can say is it worked for us so maybe try that if you're really desperate??

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 19-Oct-09 15:06:06

Not mentioning monsters doesn't make them go away, though. [uncertain emoticon]

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 15:07:52

Holy cow Singstar. shock

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 15:08:05

Holy cow Singstar!!!! shock

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 15:08:35

Sorry, one holy cow is enough.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 19-Oct-09 15:10:35

Well, Singstar, I guess it couldn't hurt if the OP did something similar.

seaglass Mon 19-Oct-09 15:11:01

My MIL told me that when she was young, there was a lady that would come and sit in her room at bedtime - it was only when she was older that she realised that it wasn't normal, and she felt all freaked out by it!

Isn't 2.5 a normal age for children to start having irrational fears? Don't dismiss her fears, but show her that the window is rattling because of the wind etc.

seaglass Mon 19-Oct-09 15:11:52

Should have said - not a real lady - a ghost!

SolidGhoulBrass Mon 19-Oct-09 15:13:06

DOn't pay a psychic, they are all either well-meaning deluded idiots or out and out con-artists. Either 'protective' room spray (a plant mister will do fine, I wouldn't personally be wild about spraying aerosols round a kids' bedroom) or a special bodyguarding cuddly are usually the most effective for this sort of thing.

littlerach Mon 19-Oct-09 15:13:20

Dd2 has a dream catcher at her window and periodically we remind it to "keep the bad dreams" away.

It works most of the time.

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 15:13:59

shock shock shock

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 15:14:34

that was for the ghosty stories...

Singstar Mon 19-Oct-09 15:14:38

Yeah it was v strange, the weirdest part of it was that he'd leave gaps in the chatter, as though he was having an actual conversation. And he'd bring it up the next day like 'Arthur said he likes my new shoes' (we don't know anyone called Arthur) shock

brightongirldownunder Mon 19-Oct-09 15:16:28

there is NO way I'm going to be able to go to sleep now (its 1:20am in Sydney)

TheBlairSnitchProject Mon 19-Oct-09 15:16:48

DH's Grandparents bought this house brand new so we know exactly who's lived and died here during it's whole history.

DS started with "ghosts" (his word not mine) a few weeks after we swapped rooms with him to make way for his little sister. His new room is the only one that someone has died in (his Great Grandfather)

It's spooky but I'm pretty sure it's just a co-incidence. DS is 2 and a half and this seems a prime time for Monsters to start causing problems. Friends of ours have a water spray bottle of "Monster repellent" that seems to do the trick

<<might try "It's time for sleep Grandad James" if it carries on for much longer though. blush The regular wake ups between DS and his ghost and needing a pee in the night are really getting to me! Got to get this sorted before DD arrives and I'll try anything!>>

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