DP and I have been together 5yrs, we planned on gettin married a couple of years ago but never got round to it - lots of stuff going on.
Anyway, I don't like being the centre of attention, and would not be having a big wedding with a big dress etc.
I wanted to get married when we were on holiday in Vegas with DS, but DP wants his Dad to be at the wedding, so we didn't get hitched. I don't mind this really.
So, I was thinking we could get married in registrars with closest family and a couple of friends. I would prefer to get married with only DP's Dad and Stepmum present, but can understand why this would upset the rest of the family.
I have made a list of DP's family - just parents and siblings, and done the same for mine and then included my best friend and her husband and DP's best friend. The total stands at 27. I think I could just about deal with 27 folk watching me get married to DP.
The problem is DP thinks his grandparents and aunts and uncles would be annoyed that they weren't invited and that folk on my side would not be impressed either - so I'm a bit stuck. I think that if we told anyone our plan of getting married in registrars with 27 folk, they would try to convince us to do it somewhere else, so that we could invite more people.
There is a limit on how many people you can have in registrars, but I expect it is probably more than 27, but I don't know.
My plan was to get them all to meet us in town for a pretend meal and get them to dress smartish(not that it matters, there would be no photographer) Then take them to registrars and get married - simple. Am I mad - is this a very crazy/stupid thing to do??
The main thing is, we want to get married (DP doesn't care where or how big, as long as his dad is there) I don't want hundreds of folk at the wedding (we both have lots of extended family) I don't want it to be a big affair. I also don't really want people to know, so that they can't be prepared and bring a camera(although some of them bring cameras everywhere with them)
So AIBU to want soemthing really really small?
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More of an 'is it unreasonable' to want a small wedding?
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MonsterUnderTheBed · 19/10/2009 12:22
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