In thinking this woman was a cheeky mare?(56 Posts)
so she expected you to pay for her other child as well?
Very cheeky! DD and DS go to loads of parties but I always inform the mum if DD/DS will be coming as extra and I will pay for them if its at soft play etc. I think it is lovely when they both get party bags and I do this for other siblings when my two have a party, I would never expect it. But this woman is just rude!
Perhaps you could send her an invoice for the uninvited child?
Did she send a present for her invited child and maybe think that would cover the both of them?
Make sure you are waiting at the school gates for her tomorrow and invite yourself to hers for a coffee.
What a cheap-skate. You should definitely send her a bill.
hi kerry , yanbu - she is a cheeky cow imo sounds like she got free childcare out of you tbh , take your ds over to smyths & he can spend his birthday money , that should cheer him up ,
I would be fuming!!!!
I thought it was bad enough on Friday when it was my DS 10th birthday. His friends mum sort of forced me into a corner to pick child up and take them to pictures/ restaraunt. No card No present. And then GET THIS!! My DH drops child off at 9.30p.m. No answer for ages until her 12 year old daughter answers the door. Mum and daughter had both gone to bed!! The child is 9!! I don't get it. (No she hasn't to get up early next day, No she wasn't expecting the child to sleep at mine, she said 'so you'll drop him off then, No I wasn't paticulaly late back, she could roughly guess what time we were going to be back from time due at cinema and time at the restaraunt. She could have always texted if it was getting late and pick him up herself. (Sorry bit of a mad rant there, now, whre was I.....)
Yes OP, the women was cheeky. No I take that back. She was god damm rude!
I would corner her and say that you assume she forgot to give you the money for the other child, cheeky bint.
Also quite shocked at other poster who lets her other child go to parties they are not invited to, very rude regardless if you pay them in or not.
I wouldn't have an issue with someone signing in another child and paying for them - as long as they then stick around and take them off for food (which they pay for) when it comes time for tea, etc (assuming that is included in party package) - because at that point they just happen to be in the same (open to the public) play facility at the same time - they are not gate-crashing the party.
Kerry she is absolutely being a cheeky mare and I too think you should corner her and 'remind' her that she 'forgot' to give you the money for the extra child (say you hadn't realised until later that she hadn't paid at the time).
I agree its
But with regard to a sibling accompanying another to a soft play party, I dont see why some of you are up in arms. ds2 had to do this recently, what else was I supposed to do with him? I paid his entrance and food, and its not as if you get the place to yourself for a party anyway, so what's the difference? Lots of people do it with siblings. I dont want ds1 to miss parties because he has a brother, and vice versa. But when there's nowhere to leave the uninvited one, whats the other option? Yes, ds1 could go in with a mate, but its a huge soft play, and its a bit unfair to expect another parent to be responsible for him when you cant see the whole playframe etc. I wouldnt expect the uninvited one to get a party bag or anything.
I hate people getting away with things just because they have the gall to take advantage.
So I would go up to her and I say, you're very sorry, it's embarrassing, but there's obvioulsy been a misunderstanding. When she said she'd signed her eldest son in, you assumed she'd paid for him, and she obviously hadn't realised that you had to pay per head rather than a set sum for the party. Say you budgeted very tightly for the party - it was your DS's present, he hot no others from you - and you hadn't budgeted for uninvited silings. Therefore, you'd like the money for him please.
Sometimes you can get exclusive hire of soft play venues depending on numbers.
DDs last party was an exclusive hire and 2 parents turned up with older uninvited siblings. They offered to pay but it was not necessary as we had already paid for exclusive hire of the place. When it came to sitting down and eating they would have been the only two left outside the party tea room. Obviously we included them and arranged a quick rejig re party bags as I hate to see kids left out but if the parents had just run it by me prior to arrival I would have agreed and it would not have felt awkward for anyone. A few parents by prior arrangement brought younger siblings which I think is a lot more acceptable (especially babes in arms who do not even eat I do not even count them).
In both cases both parents attended so there should have been IMO no issue re chidcare so why do it when they were not invited. Soft play does not mean free for all.
I have taken uninvited DS to parties when childcare has been an issue but have always agreed it with hosts previously. Very rude to turn up and expect to get in whatever the venue in my opinion.
DD (3) has been invited to a party for a boy at pre school. It's at a soft play center, and I asked the mom if DS could come (19 months) and she said, 'no, it's only for 10 children...'
Fair enough. Her party. her rules.
Best to ask, I think.
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