To be cross with DH for coming home with a ragine hangover when he promised he wouldn't?

[ladyandthechocolate]

DH went out last night with some friends - he doesn't go out very often. He said he'd only have a couple but would stay with a friend to avoid driving. He rocks up this morning looking awful and has been worshipping the porcelain god at regular intervals.
He said he wouldn't get drunk because he wanted to get on with finishing decorating the kitchen which he's been putting off for weeks.
I've been openly grumpy as I've been looking after DD while suffering with bad morning sickness.
Give me some perspective - am I being a cow?

[ladyandthechocolate]

Meant to be raging!

[Boys2mam]

I would be fuming too but if he doesn't doit very often then cut him some slack.

Just make sure that tomorrow when he's feeling better he gets that ktchen finished and has some nice quality time with DD so you can rest.

[ScaryFucker]

you probably are being a cow if he doesn't do this very often

define "very often"

[hairyclaireyfairy]

and you believed he would'nt get pissed !!
don't think you are being a cow though, make sure you make him pay and you get a lie in tomorrow

[bigchris]

you are naive to believe he wouldn't come home hungover

I'd be kind and take dd out (with his creditcard ) so he can recuperate and make it up big style tomorrow

[Jamieandhismagictorch]

YANBU. DH used to do this very occasionally when the DCs were little - I think he was letting off steam .

It used to piss me off when he'd chunder - he makes the most ridiculous noise.

There's something particularly depressing about taking the DCs to the park on your own at the weekend because your partner is nursing a hangover.

[diddl]

YANBU.

He said he wouldn´t get drunk-did you have a reason not to believe him?

He´s storing up trouble for the next time he wants to go out, IMO.

What is it with men spending heaps of money on drink, just to spew it up the next morning?

Am I the only one who goes out, comes back when he says & doesn´t get drunk?

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

YANBU. My DH did this a few weeks ago & it really pissed me off.

His DB was having a party. I was feeling rough so didn't feel up to going. He stayed over night at his brothers (it was actually my suggestion so that he could enjoy a few drinks). He was supposed to be working next day, his job involves a lot of driving, plus he had the hour drive home from his brothers, so I expected him to be sensible with the booze.

But, no, they couldn't just go home when the party finished, they had to go to a lock-in in a pub, rolling back to his DB's at 5am !!!!

He then spent the morning at his DB's nursing a hangover and phoned in sick at work. After a few crossed words between us over the phone, he turned up home at about midday with a huge bunch of flowers. At least he knew he was in the wrong, but it'll make me think twice before suggesting he stays out next time!!

[Morloth]

I think it is time to crack out some toddler CDs and play them really loudly for your DD to dance along to. If you could stomach it yourself, perhaps get some kippers cooking?

Hangovers (mine or his) get zero sympathy in this house, totally self inflicted.

[girlywhirly]

The thing is, we struggle on with morning sickness or any illness really, men have a hangover and grind completely to a halt. The older they get, the longer the hangover lasts, so while they might have been O.K. by midday in their twenties, now it takes them until teatime. A total waste of a day in which they do nothing useful and don't spend quality time with DC's.

Yanbu because his malaise is self-inflicted, he said he wanted to finish the kitchen and isn't doing so, you have to put up with unfinished kitchen another day and have already been waiting weeks.

I still remember looking after my cousins two girls aged three and six on New Years Day while their mum went to the sales, and the youngest saying "why is Grandad making that noise?" as he vomited loudly and frequently after a night of many whiskies! And the older girl was convinced he was seriously ill, and I had to give them reassurance that it must have been something upset his tummy!

[upahill]

Cut him some slack! If he doesn't do it all the time it's not a problem. Crikey I have done this - promised not to get drunk but you get chatting, have a drink and a laugh with your mates and think you are perfectly ok and then Bang! your pissed! It's not the end of the world and I'm sure normal behaviour will be resumed shortly.
My DH just teases me while he hands over the paracetamol.