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to think it might be nice if DH helped with packing for family holiday

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skinsl Thu 15-Oct-09 19:48:51

Or do they just not do it?!!
Not even crossed his mind that I might need a hand!

meemarsgotabrandnewbump Thu 15-Oct-09 19:50:31

Are you packing all his stuff too?

DiamondHead Thu 15-Oct-09 19:53:16

My dh's contribution is to look at his laptop - important work - whilst moaning that we're going to be late.

He just does not get it.

Seona1973 Thu 15-Oct-09 19:55:51

I pack for me and the 2 kids but leave dh to pack his own stuff. That way he cant moan at me if something is missing!

Firawla Thu 15-Oct-09 19:56:06

mine doesn't do it either
but if they would do something like take care of babies/kids while you get the packing done in peace i think that would be fair. sitting on their backside doing nothing while you organise everything,pack and look after everyone would not be right

RatherBeOnThePiste Thu 15-Oct-09 19:56:28

DH never ever helps or offers, then can't understand why it takes so long. Diamondhead - are we married to the same man?!

But between us ( lowers voice to a whisper ) if he did do it, I'd have to check it again, because he'd be so crap at it. Sssssssssh!

DamonBradleylovesPippi Thu 15-Oct-09 19:57:03

This very same issue nearly made me forget the holiday and stay peacefully hoem alone last summer.

And I NEVER will pack his bag.

golgi Thu 15-Oct-09 19:57:33

Depends if you want the right stuff to be packed, really.

I pack everyone else's and let husband do his own, and all the electrical gadgets. He doesn't forget chargers or leads, but will happily go away without a jumper or his contact lenses (wears daily ones so it's a bit of a problem when he forgets).

Morloth Thu 15-Oct-09 19:57:51

I do mine and DS's but DH does his own.

drinkyourmilk Thu 15-Oct-09 20:03:11

I think OH helping with packing would be my worst nighmare!!

I'm happy to suffer and moan grin

Hulababy Thu 15-Oct-09 20:04:32

I find it easier to do it all myself. That way I know what is in their and what isn't. I find that if there are two of you packing cases you can either end up packing duplicates or end up missing stuff, thinking the other would have added it.

I get DH to get his clothes out and any toiletries, ready for packing.

Then I do the rest.

Infact just sending DH up into the loft later tonight to get the cases down ready to pack during next week

TheCrackFox Thu 15-Oct-09 20:05:05

YANBU - Op have you stolen my DH? grin

I have just finished packing and need a stiff gin and tonic.

ScaryFucker Thu 15-Oct-09 20:05:07

I don't pack anything for dh

One year we turned up...he had no underwear, cue panicked dash to shops to buy some

Another toiletries

I don't give a stuff, tbh, as long as I and the kids are ok

he is a grown-up, what he doesn't pack, doesn't go with us

charmander Thu 15-Oct-09 20:05:14

DH took our three boys (age 11,9,3)to stay at MIL for weekend (1 night)on his own.
He packed - 1 nappy (for ds3 at night) and 2 pairs of pants for ds3. That was it.

I packed - antibiotics for ds2 as he had an infection, as they were essential and left him to get on with it.

All came back alive and happy. DH did comment that he forgot the pjs.
I bite my tongue and did not mention toothbrushes etc.

stickylittlefingers Thu 15-Oct-09 20:07:02

ha ha, I was having this conversation in RL last week!

I do think there's some merit in one person packing the children's stuff, tho, so nothing gets missed.

Gumps Thu 15-Oct-09 20:09:41

Just packed for weekend away all mine and 2ds' stuff. DH not helped and is prowling looking for dinner.... angry
But tbh he would be useless... he can lift it into the car!

Cicatrice Thu 15-Oct-09 20:17:43

I do for me and the DC. DH shifts for himself.

skinsl Thu 15-Oct-09 20:27:57

He is out drinking....... admittedly a client/work thing, but he will either come in at midnight and ask me what to pack for him, or ask me at 5am.
He wouldn't have a clue what to pack for DS, don't think he knows where his clothes are.
I have sorted a few of his things, but had to wash a couple of his things that I know he will want to take.

skinsl Thu 15-Oct-09 20:32:40

And I had to get in the loft!

It's probably a lot easier to just do it myself, but it feels unfair somehow

mazzystartled Thu 15-Oct-09 20:35:29




KurriKurri Thu 15-Oct-09 20:37:11

I don't pack for mine, I've explained the principles of packing; he hasn't learned them. So when we go away he lives in the same pair of shorts, has to wash out his undies and socks everyday, and comes home with a beard like Brian Blessed. His problem, not mine.

TheBossofMe Thu 15-Oct-09 20:43:32

I pack for me and DD and let DH pack for himself. Once let him pack for all of us (was running really late at work) - turned out to be v.expensive holiday as had to buy almost everything there. Apparently I don't need bras or tops on holiday. And DD doesn't need much of anything at all except nappy sacks and rattles.

pagwatch Thu 15-Oct-09 20:44:07

Then don't pack for him.
It really is that simple.
DH packs his own stuff for holidays and business trips - why shouldn't he. He is a Grown Up. So i do him the courtesy of not treating him like a fucking moron.
I am happy to wash any items he particularly wants to take as long as he gives them to me at least a couple of days before.

But if you are going to do it it seems odd to then talk about it as if he is making you when it is entirely your choice

[seriously puzzled emoticon]

EdgarAllenPoo Thu 15-Oct-09 20:49:25


you should have realsed by now that packing is an arcane skill excelled in only by females. allowing males to participate would result in an appalling catastrophe. like him missing the formula 1 qualifying.

It is therefore vitally important that only women ever pack, because the time-space fabric could be ripped apart otherwise..

girlsyearapart Thu 15-Oct-09 20:50:40

thebossofme did you secretly do that so you could get some new clothes??

I pack for me and the kids. He does his own.

Not very effectively I might add.

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