A girl in my dd's year group has recently started phoning us after school, wanting to come round. She's not a great friend of my dd, we just all walk the same way to school and got chatting. They exchanged phone numbers which I thought was fine, as she seemed quite nice. A few times we've got home from school and she's phoned, asking if she can come round. Both times I've said yes, and she's stayed for an hour or so, playing in our house and out on our street.
Had a really busy day workwise today, picked the children up and just felt like going home and chilling. As soon as I came through the door the phone rang and I could see it was her number on caller display. I ignored it this time but within half an hour she was here, and said, "Oh you ARE in, I just need to go home and tell mum you're here, then I'll stay until you have dinner if that's OK!"
She sped off before I could say anything and now she's back again! She lives about 5 mins. walk away and is now happily camped out in our front garden with her nintendo ds! My dd is chatting to her, but seems more interested in playing with the other children in the street!
A neighbour stopped me on the way to work this week as she'd seen this child coming to and from our house. She told me that in the last school holiday, she would turn up early in the morning to play with her children (with no warning), and she'd suddenly find she was looking after her all day as she couldn't get rid of her! She'd phone the child's mum suggesting a pick-up time, who would just say "Oh send her home when you've had enough!", but she was extremely defiant and wouldn't go home! She also caused arguments between the other children.
I said to her just now that if nobody answers the phone it's best not to come round as we're prob not here, (don't want to be lumbered all half term!), but she just retorted that's she's allowed to knock on people's doors without phoning first as long as she tells her mum where she is, or goes straight home if nobody's there!
My dd is starting to look a bit fed up now as if she even goes to the toilet or her bedroom this girl is shouting up the stairs to her, asking what she's doing!
How would other people deal with this? I'm happy to have her sometimes, but she seems to be at a permanent loose end!
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to be a bit uneasy about a 10 year old girl turning up at our house to play whenever she feels like it?
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onthepier · 15/10/2009 17:16
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